Does PTSD Make A Person (Seem To Be) Uncaring?

[Tinyflame]

No, Tbam- she needs help and you need to also help yourself in every way you can, for yourself and for the kids. I think what others have sometimes meant is that she's not doing it "on purpose" or "being lazy". But I understand, that being said you still have to deal with the realities - that's healthy (and necessary), too.

Good luck with this, I feel something positive will come out of it, especially when you start taking care of "you".
I'm sorry you have to go through all this. I had a period like you have described 3 years ago (lasted about 1 1/2 years, worse than anything.)

 

[Tbam]

so what suggestions are there from sufferers as to how a carer can help to create improvement and not just to maintain the unhealthy norm? What can I say or do to create a positive vibe.....

 

[Tinyflame]

I would prefer others to post to this one really, but I can only say for myself, maybe it's time for a non-confrontational talk with her or with her/T/ and yourself. I would explain without blaming her that the reality is that just as she has her limitations it has become impossible for you to do this work etc alone, without making some changes for your sake, hers and the kids, (because it's not going to help anyone if something happens to you.) Perhaps she can make a small written commitment, such as re: "brushing teeth", etc- small or as 'big' as she is able. I am hoping also that there is a relative/ friend that can help you with some of the physical demands as well.

Just make sure that you express that you have confidence in her that you 2 can do it together, you love her as she is, and that you will be there for her always (even if you feel overwhelmed right now).

This is just MHO. You know her best but you have to get resources mobilized for yourself. Every little one will feel like a great relief and assistance, I believe.

 

[Nicolette]

I have re-opened this thread after Hope bringing it to our attention that it had not been re-visited. It was closed over the holidays as it was ending up way off topic. The off topic posts have been deleted and trust it will now continue on topic.

If you want to discuss one member's situation please either create a specific thread and not intrude on other's topics.

Thanks....now back to the topic