Feeling Like Most People Are Stupid And Thoughtless, And My Theory About How This Relates To Ptsd.

[Deleted member 541]

I merely asked a question.

 

[F_uckYourselves]

So snarky and disingenuous for those of you following along at home.

 

[joeylittle]

@She Cat - thanks; that's what I thought.

@551 - it's something we all do; and this is a common issue with PTSD: reactivity. You saw a series of words, you were inclined to see them as hostile, and so that's what happened. Either you are going to accept that you weren't attacked and let this thread move on, or you're going to keep seeing something that's not there. I'm hoping you can take a breath, step away from the keyboard, and let this get back on track.

That goes for all the participants, not just the OP.

ETA; cross posted with above.

 

[F_uckYourselves]

Forget it. I thought this forum would be a place where I could share my experiences with people of similar backgrounds and experience a little of the support I've never been able to enjoy in my real life, and I guess I should have known that would be too much to ask for. I'm out of here.

 

[joeylittle]

I guess I should have known that would be too much to ask for.

It's not too much to ask for. But in order to be here, you've got to be able to hear different perspectives and not go on the attack. You can't assume people know what you are thinking.

7 day temp ban for dysregulation; I hope you decide to come back - I mean that. But it's up to you.

 

[anonymous]

You think I don't already deal with more than enough anxiety about others opinions?

The important thing is to not let their opinions affect you

 

[anonymous]

My only problem is playing the guessing game.

Does the OP think I'm stupid? Or was the OP talking about other people when she said that she questions if people are indeed stupid based on their responses here.

I think it's playing a mind game in order to assert intellectual superiority over others.

 

[Justmehere]

Then again, judging by some of the responses I've received, maybe my initial perception was correct and people are just that stupid. Some of the folks in this thread certainly seem to be.

If you really thought folks were just stupid... I don't think you would have reached out.

As soon as a misunderstanding happened, you pushed people away. By claiming they are stupid. That's what saying people are stupid does - it keeps them at a distance.

I don't think this is about intelligence at all. Not all stupid people are hurtful. Not all brilliant people are safe.

What happened is that you got hurt and you pushed people away. You learned to do that to keep you safe.

@joeylittle, you'd think it would be common f*cking sense in a forum dedicated to PTSD. Jesus Christ, this is exactly the kind of thing I'm talking about.

The most brilliant mind in the world can't be in your head and know what you think and feel. This is a very diverse community with people from cultures all over the world. What might be common sense to another might be something new to you, and vice versa. I remember one discussion about if "kiddo" or "kid" was a term of endearment or not in various cultures. I assumed one way and quickly learned new information that it wasn't the case for others. Common sense is somewhat relative.

You might get farther in changing connections in your life if you start with you and how you feel instead of your opinions about others. "I feel hurt" - this statement invites understanding and compassion and a chance for people to be better informed. "You are stupid." - this does the opposite. it doesn't bring the understanding and connection you want.,

So snarky and disingenuous for those of you following along at home.

This is your interpretation. There are other possible interpretations. Ones that may be just as accurate and would leave you in less distress and probably feeling less alone in your experiences in the world.

I hope you come back when the time is right, but either way, I wish you well.

 

[Freedomfighter]

My mom and one of my close friends both have PTSD, too, and we all share similar frustrations with people i...

I can most certainly relate. I don't think it has to with PTSD, but rather that most people really are careless and thoughtless and in my opinion many of their actions are criminal.
I grew up in a school system were children learned how to take pride in themselves and what they could accomplish. We had teachers who insisted on perfection and you know what? We strived for that and it made us happy to do so. To this day I get a great satisfaction from knowing that I can do good work, but there are so many people who love to sabotage a good worker.

Most people really just have nothing good in mind, I stay away from them, but with my new career I am looking forward to meeting people who are a little more atuned to reality and to meet people that are more intelligent than the regular crowds, people who have their shit together.