Grr! I Hate How Small Things Set The Whole Day On It's Head!

[Selena5473]

I guess I should start off by telling you that my in-laws live thousands of miles away, and I have never met them. My SO and I have only been dating for about 7 months and we found out we were pregnant. I told my family right away, and they were ecstatic, they love him and they are excited to be grandparents. My SO on the other hand waited a little to long, and told his mother last night. She immediately starts asking him if I have good intentions, and if I'm a gold digger. Also, she asked if I was sleeping around when we started dating. He told me all of this, of course, because he is honest with me about everything and told me not to worry about it. To a normal person this would have been an upsetting thing, and then they would have gotten over it. To me though, in my messed up mind it is eating away at me. My SO told me last night I was wimpering in my sleep and I was restless all night, and today I just feel like a cloud is hanging over my head. Am I being totally crazy?? Advice please =[

 

[Zipperhead]

Dealing with the In-Laws. I met my wife, and we had a long distance relationship for 2 years before she packed up and I moved her out west. The first time I met my future Mother-In-Law was as I was saying "good bye, I'll take care of her." I have always felt judged by her family. I moved thier daughter 4,000 kilometers away from them without even meeting them. And yet, I get cards from them, and the M-I-L has never said anything dirrectly to me. I guess in the end, my perception and the reality are two differant things. They only want the best for thier daughter. So I have to respect that sometimes I might not be thier favorite guy. But they have treated me with respect, and I'm sure when you finally meet your future M-I-L you will be afforded the same respect. Your future M-I-L probably never meant for those words to ever meet your ears. So take them on face value, words of concern voiced to someone she loved. Don't hold her fears against her. Let her know the real you and let her warm up to you. You owe that to your little bundle of joy.