Help Please... I'm Lost.

[MurphyJB]

Well, let me start of with I do not suffer from PTSD.

My boyfriend has PTSD, split personality, and an anxiety disorder. He is a combat veteran who got out in 08, but he didn't start having major problems until this summer.

I try my very best to be there for him, but it's so hard sometimes. I feel bad anytime I complain, because he's the one that is sick...but I don't think he gets how hard it is to deal with sometimes.

I'm 21 years old...I want to go out and have fun with friends, but part I me always feels bad that I want that. We always stay at home...I mean, I get excited when he feels okay enough to stay and the restaurant and eat instead of getting carryout.

I love him with every fiber of my being, an would go to the ends of the earth for him...but sometimes I really just don't know how to help. Nothing I do ever seems good enough...

 

[Nicolette]

Welcome MurphyJB

You are hopefully now on the road in finding some understanding of PTSD and your situation by reading and participating in this forum. There are some sticky threads at the top of the Carers section which would be a good place for you to start reading.

As for wanting to stay home - isolation (avoiding other people) is common amongst PTSD Sufferers.

I can appreciate how you feel and the cruel reality is you have to put yourself first in order to help your boyfriend while he has to help himself with his illness.

Take care.

 

[Iam]

Welcome to the forum Murphy. As Nicolette said read some of the sticky threads in the Carer's section. The articles on PTSD will be really helpful too. I know it helped my husband and I understand why I react the way I do sometimes.

You'll find lots of support here too. I can say that you carers are absolutely incredible.

 

[anthony]

Duplicate post in Chit Chat deleted. Please do not replicate posts around the forum.

 

[MurphyJB]

Sorry about that. I tried to cancel the one in chit chat, but I guess posting with phones is tricky business.

 

[Iam]

I don't think we have the option to delete anymore do we Anthony?

 

[KP the nut]

Sorry about that. I tried to cancel the one in chit chat, but I guess posting with phones is tricky business.

Don't let it put you off posting. We all get it wrong at one time or another.

Welcome to the forum, I hope reading the information and chatting to the other carers helps.

((HUGS)) if you will accept them
KP

 

[cherryblossom]

There has never been an option for members to delete their own threads. But if you make an error such as a double post, just hit the report button below the post, tell us you made a double post and it can easily be removed.

 

[MurphyJB]

((HUGS)) if you will accept them.

Thank you! :) I'll take all the hugs I can get.

 

[cherryblossom]

Oops! I forgot to say welcome!! There's a lot to read here about PTSD. I hope it will help you, and perhaps you could suggest your boyfirend has a look at the site too. Or maybe print a few of the relevant articles off for him to look at.

 

[Iam]

There has never been an option for members to delete their own threads. But if you make an error such as a double post, just hit the report button below the post, tell us you made a double post and it can easily be removed.

My bad CB...I thought we had 10 minutes on the old forum format. I never used it though so obviously didn't realize. Must have been for editing purposes.

 

[deer_in_headlights]

Welcome MurphyJB!

I'm glad to see you here, and I hope all of us can be a helpful, supportive and healing resource for you and your boyfriend.

Many of us sufferers tend to isolate, but we know and hurt deep inside at how that affects our carers. (It tends to make us feel even worse about everything.) I encourage mine to get out and do things that they love and are great for their body, mind and psyche... and I would encourage you to do the same, MurphyJB...

I hope you soon feel very much at home! There is a special place in heaven for those who care for wounded spirits... and we want to support you as best we can, and help your boyfriend as well.

With warmest wishes,
Deer