Hoo-boy. just outed myself as no contact to my cousin...

[Mari]

So, I'm No Contact with pretty much all of my siblings. I have a cousin who I explained what my family had done that caused the No Contact, but didn't really mention the No Contact specifically. She seemed supportive and so for the last year and a half I have wondered if she would also be supportive of me being No Contact. Of course, being open about this is a big risk.

Today gave me a good opportunity to find out. She asked me for my sisters' addresses and I said I no longer have them because I am No Contact with them because of all the gaslighting and sent her a link to an article about what No Contact is. So, I guess I'll find out where she stands. I hope. One way or the other I just want to know who gets it in my family. I'd rather know. And why should I have to keep my No Contact status a secret? I get discretion with strangers or acquaintances, and perhaps this will prove a big mistake but I just want to know who I can count on.

In a way, this is also a sign of how far I've come because if she isn't supportive or stands with my siblings I know in my heart that it will hurt but ultimately doesn't change anything and that I am strong enough to just keep moving forward.

 

[GwenDR]

Good luck, and I hope they understand. If you don't mind, I'd be interested in reading that article you mentioned.

 

[Mari]

I'm not able to post the link, but it's an article called "No Contact – The Scapegoat’s Last Resort" on Glynis Sherwood's site.

 

[GwenDR]

Thanks, and that makes total sense, and is absolutely necessary some times.

 

[Buddey]

Holy **** this article describes what I am going threw and have been for years. I can't no contact though as I am totally dependent on my mother. I wish I could though. It would make my slow progress I have started recently move a lot faster. Thank you so much for bringing this to my attention. I'll most my own thing so I don't take away from yours. But I appreciate the information.

 

[Mari]

Hey, I don't mind tangents. :-) You never know what a difference your story can make to others. I'm both glad and sad that the article was helpful to you.