General How Do Carers Make Things Better When Child Has Ptsd?

[acp<3elm]

What if you are the parent of a suffering child (young adult 21) that is living with you. How do you walk away when you know its time? No more eggshells or shards of glass. How do you leave your child or ask your child to leave when its your home and you know he has nowhere to go, no license, no job? Is anyone else dealing with or has dealt with this aspect?

I guess its the boundaries thing? acp<3elm

 

[Nicolette]

Hi ac<3elm

I have moved your post to its own thread so it doesn't get lost amongst the thread you posted in :)

 

[Gamereign555]

Patience... just make them feel loved. And bless you.

 

[daretodream]

I have two children and two very diverse ways I have dealt . Both have a form of PTSD.

My son has been a rocky journey and at age 19 I gave him a choice to attend college; work and pay rent; or to leave, for I could not and would not watch him self distruct. He left and the road between us has become complicated . He has severe ODD too on top of other challenges. My son is very social and always finds a home/people to feed on

My daughter is still at home and has gone to work and pays rent. She does not drive and struggles alot with anxiety. She has some rare health issues physically that create challenges in working (ei reacts to coffee fumes and wood by products. ) We are working on providing skills and means to handle all upon her plate. I am steadily working on cutting her dependancy ties to me.

Each child is unique and requires a different approach to the way you will have to deal with them as a parent. I learnt sometimes the best thing to do is to cut the tie fast and let them go for helping them creates dysfunction even more so. Only you know your child and what that child needs. Listen to your guts and let the assertive side guide you. As a mom I tend to go from submissive to aggressive to easily and not enough in assertiveness.

You mention boundaries and the best thing we do for our chidlren is setting healthy boundaries for us and through this they gain in return.

I have a strong faith and this is often what I lean upon in these times of questions I bring forth for me.

I am sorry you have to struggle with this upon your plate for it is never easy helping our children when they themselves are hurting inside with PTSD.