I have done DBT for the past two months and now we’re slowly moving into somatic therapy.. I’m really starting to hate it even though I must go on.

[Luna_Moth]

A lot of it involves getting out of my head, but that’s all I’ve ever done was be inside my head. I overanalyze, intellectualize, and overthink my way out of feeling things. Part of me wants to just talk, but my therapist feels like I think too much and that focusing too much on thoughts is holding me back.

I really hate going through this. I don’t want to “feel” things because thinking is what I do best. This all feels like uncharted territory for me to be completely frank.

 

[Rose White]

Interesting. Idk if it’s possible to just feel vs just think? Really relate to being analytic as a comfort zone. For me I just didn’t know that I *was* having feelings! My T helped me put language to feelings beyond “I hate myself”.

 

[Movingforward10]

Yeah, it's totally horrible. Blocking those feelings off, making them not exist, thinking your way out of them is most of our 'go yo' strategy.
Works a treat.
Until it doesn't.

And then the feelings arrive and it's working out how to feel them, what they are, making sense of them, sitting with them. Hard hard hard work.

Baby steps with it.
It is unchartered territory.
And you need to have the scaffolding around you to help feel safe with it.

 

[PamelaS]

A lot of it involves getting out of my head, but that’s all I’ve ever done was be inside my head. I overanalyze, intellectualize, and overthink my way out of feeling things. Part of me wants to just talk, but my therapist feels like I think too much and that focusing too much on thoughts is holding me back.

I really hate going through this. I don’t want to “feel” things because thinking is what I do best. This all feels like uncharted territory for me to be completely frank.

You are who you are and you do things the way you do things. You do them that way for a reason. I have had a need to know why things have happened to me. And my mind enjoys thinking. I think we do it more because it’s comfortable for us and safe. The feeling area doesn’t seem to be safe sometimes. We are all created differently. Each of us is unique. And that is the beauty of being alive. Sometimes people force square pegs into round holes and force us to be different than who we are, because that’s the way they do things. But I believe they’re looking at it the wrong way. There is a beautiful balance of thinking and feeling if we are safe in the feeling area. You can get there, but as long as you’re not feeling safe, you don’t have to force yourself to do things their way. Maybe try explaining to your therapist that the feelings aren’t safe for you and that’s why you don’t want to go there. We all need to feel safe. Physically safe and emotionally safe. One day at a time. One step at a time. Always looking forward to a better future than our past. I’ll be praying that as. you to keep taking steps in the right direction your life will become brighter and brighter. One day at a time.