"i Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You."

[Anglesachse]

Sorry....I may have some issues.

You mean something along these lines Wagon Cocker.

 

[Anglesachse]

Or is she more the ........... Bitter Heartless Bitch LMAO

 

[reddevil1111]

Mine would just claim how she "used to love me" while hacking off my penis and feeding it to a pack of rabid pigs. Sigh.

 

[Cufflinks]

Well, she's left and taken the kids. She wants a divorce and has made any return virtually impossible.

Her leaving has actually reduced my stress unbelievably. I've learned a lot over the past couple of months.

I feel strange in that I think I'm actually better off without her.

What I have worked out is that she has unresolved issues which are behind her decision, some very dark moments which would qualify her as PTSD too.Unfortunately, she's lumped me in with the people she has the issues about.

Such a shame but there's nothing I can do.

 

[Wagon]

It's the PTSD hind teat. Welcome. Hang tough brother. Allot of us are either there or have been there. The best thing you can do is work on yourself..... that helps with dealing with others.

Almost a bit of a formula there it seems. A good portion of the time it seems to be 60% you 40% others and then some days you have to deal with 100% you............... The beast is such a selfish bitch!!!!

 

[Jimmy1]

Hey Rustler,

My wife left because of the beast too and there was no going back. That was in 2007. I have found new love and a great new wife, but things still get tough with her too.
My first instinct is to run and get out on my own where it's quieter and more peaceful.

You see, we have the inbuilt 'Fight' or 'Flight' mode. A service person automatically will choose fight normally, but when we don't want to hurt the person or we are way outnumbered, it's easier to take the flight option.

Just work on yourself mate. Learn to survive on your own and deal with the nasty emotions, then ask her back out to dinner. Or you can just write it off. Your choice. You are the most important person now anyway. You won't be able to attract anyone sane into your life while you are untreated.

Just an opinion.

 

[Anglesachse]

.......You see, we have the inbuilt 'Fight' or 'Flight' mode. A service person automatically will choose fight normally, but when we don't want to hurt the person or we are way outnumbered, it's easier to take the flight option.......................

Spot on Jimmy.

You have just answered a year old question I have been trying to get my head around with one simple paragraph.

 

[Ned]

I recognised this in myself a while ago. I spend a lot of time running away these days. I don't know if I'm ashamed of that or not, I just can't handle the mental side of confrontation.

 

[Sarg]

Oh, my. I just said almost the same thing in another post before reading this one. Ah, ditto?

Sarg

 

[Wagon]

Yeah...work on self first. f*cking hell. Forever on the short bus.