In Therapy, Full Story Or Just Bits?

[2quilt]

Trust is earned over time. I assume that you did not tell your husband every detail of your life on the first date. Your therapist has earned some trust, or else you would not have disclosed what you have until now. But I would suggest that you stay in therapy because (a) healing is a very long journey, maybe a lifetime one and (b) the more you talk about the traumas, the more you will heal. That's why I enjoy this forum so much.

If therapy is working and you can afford it financially, stay.

 

[SunnyBrookFarm]

The chair thing would freak me out also. I think you just need to be honest with him, and see if you can build trust with him (especially since your resources are limited in your area). At a minimum you need to let him know - that there are things you aren't telling him - because you don't feel safe enough too yet.

Oh and by all means - tell him about the chair and the distance that you need to feel more comfortable.

 

[Deleted member 541]

I know that trust issues are a huge thing for all of us, but honestly, he can't fully help you, unless he knows what he is dealing with....

Possibly telling him something small that you haven't told him before, may help you to open up a bit. One of the ways that I used to see what my T could handle, was the way they they react to what I tell them......I would gauge his reaction and that would either prompt me to tell more, or not to.

I do think that eventually we HAVE to tell our therapist the whole truth, in order for them to help us. The can't possibly help us not knowing what we are going through, and they certainly can't assume something and try to treat us on assumptions........That's just unethical and asking for trouble.......