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@Abstract I have no problem sharing it. That's what anonymous forums are for, right? It seems valid to get opinions, since I know I overreact easily too.
My email:
Sorry it's been so long.
I was rather threatened last session by the focus upon convincing me medication is something I might consider being open to despite my attempts to redirect the session. Your assertion that you are unsure whether you are a good enough therapist or can help is admirable if you're truly trying to think of me, but was also a little triggering and does not inspire confidence to continue. I'm not certain whether I'm interested in a termination session. I'm going to most likely look for a trauma therapist as I have been struggling for the past month and obviously need help.
Any suggestions as to how to look for someone with such a specialty would be appreciated. I have enjoyed the work we have been able to do together and wish you the best.
And hers:
I am so sorry I was an instrument of pain rather than comfort to you. There are many people who do trauma work and we all do it differently. While it appeared for a long time that we were working well together, the last session was difficult - for both of us. Perhaps my counter transference was in play and felt your pain too much. It's going to take a long time whoever you work with. Long term trauma is deep seated and requires much going over memories which is difficult to do. I am deeply sorry that I hurt you. That was not my intent. A key tenet is to do no harm. I know you have been hurt by many people including therapists. I am sorry that you now consider me one of those people.
There are many things I feel might be helpful to talk about. I think it may be worth having one face to face to talk about that last session. I am sorry that you were not able to tell me what you were experiencing and that I was no keen enough to see it. There would be no charge for that session if you are willing to see me.
If not, I believe you know that I wish the best for you and hope that you find success in all that you do. Most of all I wish you healing, peace and serenity. You are truly a remarkable young woman.
My email:
Sorry it's been so long.
I was rather threatened last session by the focus upon convincing me medication is something I might consider being open to despite my attempts to redirect the session. Your assertion that you are unsure whether you are a good enough therapist or can help is admirable if you're truly trying to think of me, but was also a little triggering and does not inspire confidence to continue. I'm not certain whether I'm interested in a termination session. I'm going to most likely look for a trauma therapist as I have been struggling for the past month and obviously need help.
Any suggestions as to how to look for someone with such a specialty would be appreciated. I have enjoyed the work we have been able to do together and wish you the best.
And hers:
I am so sorry I was an instrument of pain rather than comfort to you. There are many people who do trauma work and we all do it differently. While it appeared for a long time that we were working well together, the last session was difficult - for both of us. Perhaps my counter transference was in play and felt your pain too much. It's going to take a long time whoever you work with. Long term trauma is deep seated and requires much going over memories which is difficult to do. I am deeply sorry that I hurt you. That was not my intent. A key tenet is to do no harm. I know you have been hurt by many people including therapists. I am sorry that you now consider me one of those people.
There are many things I feel might be helpful to talk about. I think it may be worth having one face to face to talk about that last session. I am sorry that you were not able to tell me what you were experiencing and that I was no keen enough to see it. There would be no charge for that session if you are willing to see me.
If not, I believe you know that I wish the best for you and hope that you find success in all that you do. Most of all I wish you healing, peace and serenity. You are truly a remarkable young woman.
