As a mother who gets stressed very easily and is actually triggered a lot by 'connecting to people' I agree it is very likely for a mother with PTSD to abuse her children. Being a mother is a very very stressful job. My stress threshold is high, but I am under a lot of stress with my PTSD.
I coped by going back to work when my son was 2 1/2 and having support from a team of friends at work helped. I aslo got 12 years of counceling before I had a child. I also had only one child. I also had a psychologist that helped me nut out individual things that impacted on my relationship with my son. I kind of got traumatised by parenting. My son's emotions were so strong when he was 4, they pushed onto me until I thought they were my own emotions. lol. Being a mum iwas really really hard. But I managed.
A child can help with 'reconnection'. I deliberately went through a drug free labor and refused diabetes intervention with early childbirth induciton to ensure I could 'connect' and bond with my child to help my PTSD. It did. I 'reconnected' with people the first time with my son after 13 years of PTSD. It is not easy going through 4 1/2 years of 'reconnection' processing with my son being the main trigger.
I am not perfect, I do smack which I try not to, but sometimes I do and it is on a scale of the lightest.I try to use the naughty step. And my worst thing is I occasionally raise my voice and have told my son I didn't want him anymore. But parenting is a marathon, and I DO connect with my child, which is so important. He is growing up not to bad, it could be better, but I have done the best I can and having compassion for yourself is important too.
I coped by going back to work when my son was 2 1/2 and having support from a team of friends at work helped. I aslo got 12 years of counceling before I had a child. I also had only one child. I also had a psychologist that helped me nut out individual things that impacted on my relationship with my son. I kind of got traumatised by parenting. My son's emotions were so strong when he was 4, they pushed onto me until I thought they were my own emotions. lol. Being a mum iwas really really hard. But I managed.
A child can help with 'reconnection'. I deliberately went through a drug free labor and refused diabetes intervention with early childbirth induciton to ensure I could 'connect' and bond with my child to help my PTSD. It did. I 'reconnected' with people the first time with my son after 13 years of PTSD. It is not easy going through 4 1/2 years of 'reconnection' processing with my son being the main trigger.
I am not perfect, I do smack which I try not to, but sometimes I do and it is on a scale of the lightest.I try to use the naughty step. And my worst thing is I occasionally raise my voice and have told my son I didn't want him anymore. But parenting is a marathon, and I DO connect with my child, which is so important. He is growing up not to bad, it could be better, but I have done the best I can and having compassion for yourself is important too.
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