ann taylor
New Here
Hi im new to the forum! I never knew that so many people were dealing with similiar situations as I am. It is very comforting to know that I am not alone! Thank you all for reassurance! My fiance, well, ex fiance has PTSD. A lil bit about our background. I am 22, with a old soul i might add. And he is 27. So compared to some we are relatively new kids on the block! I met him after his 2 terms in Iraq. We met Feb of 2008. Everything was everything for the first year he grew to me and told me all about what he saw overseas. (heartbreaking) he told me i was the only one he could tell those things too. He even added that he had never told anyone but me, and his case worker, not even his mom. 2010 he moved 300 miles away, i couldnt come because i was in school trying to get my nursing degree. We were good, all up until Sept. 2010 i lost my bestfriend in a car wreck and he lost a friend from church where he was staying. Suddenly, he withdrew from me and told me he couldnt be with me anymore. And broke up with me. I had just lost my bestfriend so quite naturally i took this news very hard. He then, went into the arms of another girl. That literally almost killed me. He came back into my life 6months later. We worked it out, he moved back home and we got closer than ever. This year we were planning to be married in January. In december 2012 we got an apartment. Everything was good. Now like before he is doing it again! At the beginning of Feb he started withdrawing, doubting my love ever existed, and also telling me that he was confused and lost and he didnt know what to do. It sucks so bad that i am in love with a man that has ptsd and he doesnt realize how much i want him no matter what he is going through. He keeps telling me he needs time. Its so hard to grant him that when im scared that if i give him too much time he will feel as if im neglecting him. I do not know what to do. He is completely emotionally detached like last time. Its like he has no emotions. Being the person that he is, he is so sweet so kind its hard to believe he could flip within a month time frame but he did. I just want to help him. What do i do?
