My Sister Masturbates In Our Shared Bed

[Myhope]

Did anyone notice that the poor girl Elsa disappeared off the discussion where she was asking for help? Lord. Everyone get busy arguing the points, and be sure to invalidate her experience as well. If she feels damaged by it, that should be all anyone cares about. I hope not everyone with a slightly unclear if its ptsd diagnosis doesn't experience the same blather. She deserved empathy. I don't blame her for not coming back. My God people, if we here can't be there for someone, young, vulnerable, hurting, who will? Not so sure about this site now.

 

[Myhope]

Elsa, If you read this, try to take what others offered that was understanding and compassionate and discard the rest. If you feel traumatized and are concerned about a disorder emanating from it onto you. That is enough. It is traumatic to feel that your sexual boundaries are not being honored especially by someone you trust. What label is put on it doesn't matter. What matters is that you put your feelings out there and you deserve to have them honored, especially here. As for your sister, I would inform her that she will need to masturbate somewhere else or you will take necessary steps to ensure she doesn't. First tell her how disturbed by it you feel and require her to honor your boundaries. If she doesn't honor them then you could call authorities, and I am sure it would be looked into with proper concern for your welfare. Do whatever you feel is best to ensure that your boundaries are protected. I respect your effort to be heard here and I am sorry your feelings were lost in an unnecessary debate.

 

[Nicolette]

Elsa, If you read this,

She hasn't been on the forum since the 24th Jan.

 

[Barconian]

Have you gone and watched what teen girls are doing today?

Yes I have! I use to have a house full of them and they told me everything... The girls are more sexually active than the boys today, yes, however, they still have boundaries and those boundaries need to be respected, just the same as respecting the boundaries of your forum... If we piss you off Anthony, you press the delete button called BANNED. Elsa can't do that because she doesn't have a delete button to BAN her sister!!!

It maybe excepted in the military to play with yourself around your mates, but that does not apply to everyone. I'm sorry, but having a bunch of meat head AJ'S flogging the log is not the same as young girls coming into their sexual prime and dealing with their own insecurities and inhibitions as they grow! If someone did that in front of my daughter when she was 15, Emma would have dropped them where they sat without remorse!

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

@Barconian, friendly debate is fine and encouraged as it can promote growth. Being civil is important as is being respectful.

If we piss you off Anthony, you press the delete button called BANNED.

It's odd that you keep challenging Anthony all over the forum.

 

[Barconian]

I do apologise Ayesha, I didn't realise! I'm only challenging what I don't agree with, not trying to be rude. I'm not trying to attack him! I was using the banned statement as an example of how to enforce boundaries, nothing more.

 

[anthony]

What label is put on it doesn't matter. What matters is that you put your feelings out there and you deserve to have them honored, especially here.

Actually, this is a website for PTSD sufferers, which means the criterion atleast meets PTSD criterion A, which this alone does not. So I kindly disagree with your assessment to offer people posting here for things that don't atleast have a criterion for PTSD somewhere in their trauma history.

 

[anthony]

I'm only challenging what I don't agree with, not trying to be rude. I'm not trying to attack him!

Then do that, and don't single out a person. If you knew how people get banned here, then maybe you wouldn't be so flippant about it, as though people get banned for pissing me off, because that is not how is occurs. I take shit from a great deal of people who I shouldn't give the time of day. I do that due to respecting opinions. I ban people who have little effective posts other than trolling, hence they get banned. Opinions are just that... and those I respect whilst they aren't becoming defensive in nature.

As I have said in other threads, and persons have said in this one, you take posts that you find helpful and thus the opinions given, and you ignore the rest. I get ignored in some, listened in others... as does every member, and that is the way it goes.

When people start singling others out and attacking their opinion, that is where the shit starts.

 

[Barconian]

When people start singling others out and attacking their opinion, that is where the shit starts.

By no means am I trying to single you out, Anthony! I think it is more that I am interested in what you have to say and I will challenge if I don't agree. You are an intelligent man and I do respect you and Nicolette for what you are trying to build here! I understand that I put you in a spot with the donation thing and I am sorry! I needed to know if you were real or I was donating to a computer!

I read the articles that you put up... Whether they are your own words or not is irrelevant, You shared the information with us. Please don't see me as your enemy, I will settle and I do believe in what you are trying to achieve here... I am learning the boundaries.

 

[anthony]

What I write is often my own, yes... though I do my own research and often cite my own thoughts based on a cross section of information, and not an angle I wish to promote... i.e. an agenda. I try to see everything possibly as unbiased as I can... some things I just can't see relevant based on data, thus I can be quite biased due to the bullshit often involved.

I have been quite real for the past 42 years.... trust me on that one. Oh... and thank you for trusting us with your donation, as it is extremely appreciated.

 

[Barconian]

The donation was worth it, Nicolette put up a damn good argument and I couldn't do anything but give :) I am slowly learning who you are Anthony and not for my gain, but for us both. I do get a little passionate with some cases on hear and that is only because I care! PTSD really truly does SUCK! The people that I have seen on here are just unbelievable. I can see the difference between drama and reality and there is fortunately more reality than drama.

I promise that I will never put you down, Anthony! I truly love this forum because of your rules and because of the multitude of strength among the people. I am a little difficult to handle, everything I have said is the gods truth and I only wish that I can be on your side for the good of this Forum

 

[Philippa]

It seems like this has become more about members and moderators and no longer about what it was actually about...elsa. I'd have left by now too if it were me. Hopefully elsa found the support she needs somewhere.