Navigating Workplace Challenges: Seeking Safety and Comfort

[hypervigilant]

I volunteer for a charity and there's a lot of banter amongst the staff. As the manager says don't show weakness as its jumped on and becomes the running joke.
I've learned throughout my work life to have a thick skin, head down and think of the money. Another colleague was so distressed as they had found his and didn't stop.
A couple of us tried to discuss this with the manager over lunch and realisation hit me that it's just another unsafe place and I don't know if I want to be here anymore. I have been bullied, manipulated, exploited in the workplace since I was 16 and I'm now 60. I'm exhausted by it all and I had thought I had found a safe place but now feel quite unsteady and uncomfortable.

 

[Friday]

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[VorpalSword]

A couple of us tried to discuss this with the manager over lunch and realisation hit me that it's just another unsafe place and I don't know if I want to be here anymore. I have been bullied, manipulated, exploited in the workplace since I was 16 and I'm now 60. I'm exhausted by it all and I had thought I had found a safe place but now feel quite unsteady and uncomfortable.

Do you need for your job to be a safe place?

 

[hypervigilant]

Good question.
I could step back from the volunteering and just focus on the 5 hrs a week I actually work, keep my head down and my distance and just earn the money and then it wouldn't matter. Maybe.