Sufferer Needs Support

[luzia]

Hi, My anger and avoidance have left me in a bad place. I have tried reaching out IRL but have been disappointed. Just want somewhere I can relate to people that may understand... I suffered several traumas close together in my teens, now in my thirties they haunt me. Anyway, that's the intro :S -- see ya'll

 

[intothelight]

Hi Luzia,

Welcome to MyPTSD forum! :)

Well you have picked the right place as the members here really do understand. This site has a lot of great information and support that I hope you find helpful.

Take care.

Debbie

 

[luzia]

Thanks Debbie. Im reading around the site and will do my best to try to open up. Sometimes its hard and I feel like I just open myself up for more disappointment... being closed off and angry, the way I am now, isnt working though -- so what the 'ell,uh?

 

[Recovery Girl]

:rolleyes: Hi Luzia, Welcome!
It's hard stuff,,,huh? I sometimes have to close the page and I feel bad cause so many need someone to at least just listen and believe. I just get where my tummy feels yucky and I have to stop. But other days I respond to threads and I feel proud to have been able to reach out and help. It's funny how it works, cause when I help others, it helps me! Silence = death. Keep talking as much as you can to get the stuff out. It's so worth it and so are you!

 

[keifer]

I liked your word haunted. Sometimes I embrace my anger, other times, I listen to music, or meditate or focus on breathing. Other times, a violent video game helps or a long walk/run. Everyone is different. There is no one solution to anger. One way of coping may work one day, but not the next and then none at all at times too.

We all share the aftermath. Some worse than others and all from different traumas. In the end, we have a lot in common. My last therapy session called that humanity.

 

[luzia]

I want to stop taking my anger out on others... usually it's nothing but rude annoyance in everyday life..., but I am not nice to my family or people I think have disappointed me. Im angry about whats happened to me and how people have been so quick to judge or dismiss my pov. Im hurt and dont know how to deal with it...

 

[keifer]

You have a right to be angry. Anger is expressed when you dont feel safe. Its a way of defending yourself. With PTSD, anger gets a bit mangled. It comes out at unintended directions. You have a choice. I keep mine in but sometimes it just escapes. Maybe find one thing helps you feel safe.

 

[jmm214407]

When anger comes out or you feel it coming on you HAVE to stop and take a minute to breath amd focus on why your really getting angry. I have one of the worst anger issue's. But I've learned to control it. And this site will definitely help. Its helped me so much.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Hi and welcome!

The anger issue is SO hard to deal with. I've let a LOT of anger go, but I'm still very quick to react so that's what I'm working on now. At least I let go of the anger in about 5 seconds. Steps in the right direction, right?

Please try to open up here. Chances are we can understand you more than others in your life. When I'm in a really bad place and whining about how nobody understands me, my dad reminds me that nobody will understand me simply because they can't. Now on the outset this sounds really mean, but it's not. His point is that I should stop trying to get understanding and rather work toward acceptance. People can accept without fully understanding. This has helped me, and I seek out understanding from other sufferers, just not in my real life. Maybe this will help you?

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Welcome to the forum.