No More Therapy

[Justmehere]

What?! Did someone die? Did she have major surgery? Those are the only two times I think I would be ok with telling my therapist I was praying for her. And in all other cases the therapist should not be bringing her own stuff into the picture. And this does not sound like a one time event either, but she tries to give you a guilt trip about it? If a real estate broker had to cancel all the time they would not expect to keep their clients. This is much true in all professions. Therapy involves matters of the heart and it is even more important to be reliable. I am so sorry you have had to deal with such unprofessionalism. This is just not normal therapist behavior.

I mean if you were asking her to have extra phone calls and etc, I can see a therapist saying hey, I have limitations... But these are scheduled appointments! She is canceling on commitments she made to people. I would never cancel on a client in my profession and think it was a good thing or just plain normal or something my client had to absorb. I would expect them to not want to be a client of mine.

Clearly, she is extremely limited in her capacity to be an ethical therapist.

 

[Justmehere]

I hope you do try to find another therapist because I think you will find it really helpful to experience a therapist who actually shows up for appointments... Which is pretty much what 99 percent of therapists do and step one of being a good decent therapist.

But I also know it is really hard to try again after someone being so terrible like this. I have run into an unethical therapist who trashed my already minimal trust and it was so hard to try again. It was also really worth it when I did try again, but it took fine for me to be ready.