baileysemt
Silver Member
Well I messed up.
I voted No. But I should have voted Yes.
I voted No in that I want moderation to be a bit less heavy-handed. I think the explanations provided for why someone is being moderated, are needlessly detailed and far too personal. The feeling I get from these posts is that this person is being publicly flogged and feathered. IMO this is particularly damaging to someone with depression, anxiety or PTSD. Many of us deal with enough judgment and abuse from our families and SO's, we don't need this kind of threat looming over us on a board that's supposed to be a safe place where we can heal.
I should have voted Yes, because I do believe that anyone who is moderated should have a fair shake with all members, as well as a chance to speak their piece about it. And perhaps if the moderation is too detailed and too personal, then members of the board can see that is the case for themselves and reach their own conclusions about it.
Yes, I do fully recognize that it's your board to do with as you please, Anthony. I understand what that means and how it works, as I have run several boards of my own in the past 11 years, and am running one right now. But that doesn't mean I necessarily agree with how all things are handled. I will follow the rules to the best of my ability, but my mere presence and continued contributions do not equate to my blanket stamp of approval. We are talking two separate things here. I am not pointing this out to be mean toward you Anthony, I just want to clarify the factual basis of where I stand on this issue.
As it is not "my" board, my scope of influence is very limited, so I try to participate in a way that I hope will offer the most benefit to others. I try to participate the best, most helpful way that I possibly can.
As I leave the board today, I am leaving feeling much better about myself, because I read others who are experiencing the exact same feelings that I've been struggling with. It has helped me to realize I am not alone, and I am not doing anything wrong to cause myself to feel that way. It was just what I needed, and I thank you all for helping me.
Just my humble 2¢ worth. :)
Bailey
I voted No. But I should have voted Yes.
I voted No in that I want moderation to be a bit less heavy-handed. I think the explanations provided for why someone is being moderated, are needlessly detailed and far too personal. The feeling I get from these posts is that this person is being publicly flogged and feathered. IMO this is particularly damaging to someone with depression, anxiety or PTSD. Many of us deal with enough judgment and abuse from our families and SO's, we don't need this kind of threat looming over us on a board that's supposed to be a safe place where we can heal.
I should have voted Yes, because I do believe that anyone who is moderated should have a fair shake with all members, as well as a chance to speak their piece about it. And perhaps if the moderation is too detailed and too personal, then members of the board can see that is the case for themselves and reach their own conclusions about it.
Yes, I do fully recognize that it's your board to do with as you please, Anthony. I understand what that means and how it works, as I have run several boards of my own in the past 11 years, and am running one right now. But that doesn't mean I necessarily agree with how all things are handled. I will follow the rules to the best of my ability, but my mere presence and continued contributions do not equate to my blanket stamp of approval. We are talking two separate things here. I am not pointing this out to be mean toward you Anthony, I just want to clarify the factual basis of where I stand on this issue.
As it is not "my" board, my scope of influence is very limited, so I try to participate in a way that I hope will offer the most benefit to others. I try to participate the best, most helpful way that I possibly can.
As I leave the board today, I am leaving feeling much better about myself, because I read others who are experiencing the exact same feelings that I've been struggling with. It has helped me to realize I am not alone, and I am not doing anything wrong to cause myself to feel that way. It was just what I needed, and I thank you all for helping me.
Just my humble 2¢ worth. :)
Bailey
