Poll Open Disclosure Policy To Forum Members - Yes or No?

[spiritofnow]

That being said, I would hope to see this forum carry this out in a manner in which is neither attacking nor defensive. Humbly, tude

I agree with this statement in terms of open disclosure. As long as matters are dealt with in a standardized manner, I believe would negate any individual feeling 'got at'.

Perhaps discretion for both (open/closed) depending on what the breech was/is?

Spirit

 

[spiritofnow]

I guess Anthony is rather like a sheperd - ensuring the flock stay within the boundaries of safety set out for this forum. Which is why I feel it is important to have established guidelines. When I first joined I did not know how these domains worked - I did not realise there was one person who herded the flock (as it were). I made mistakes and reacted to some comments that were made about them ( i did not realise they were editorial). I guess I felt that the comments were accusatory, implying an agenda for why I did something.

I was defensive about that! I get it more now! I guess this is why I feel it would be usefull to have a standardized response to someones actions on here. That way it does not make it personal and ensures that people see their mistakes or otherwise as just that! Rather than pointing the finger, which I know is not what you are doing.

It must be hard for you Anthony to always remain objective (tough job)!

Could there be a way that people have to read the FAQ's or forum policies before they are able to comment on here? I guess I was blindsighted to them in my nervous rush to say hello and reach out.

Just my thoughts.

Thanks

Spirit

 

[anthony]

There is no real set way in which to make a person read them before signing up.... this is partly why moderation exists, to ensure members comply to editorial standards before being allowed out of moderation. The majority comply and have no further issues.

 

[meggymish]

Anthony, as a completely new member under the initial moderation, I'd like to see the admind decisions in the open so that I have a clear idea of what not to say. For instance, sometimes I want to talk about the events in detail to someone who won't look at me like I'm a freak who should be in a mental hospital. Is it obscene? What qualifies as obscene? What if something I post ends up being a trigger for someone else? How do I as a new member know these things without spending ages reading through the backlog of every post ever written? Seeing things in the open will help us newbies avoid making the same mistakes. I'm also really grateful I found this place.

 

[JustJane]

I have very limited knowledge of my recently diagnosed condition. I don't know enough about the site to know what I am even voting for or against. If it's ok, I don't want to vote at this time.

 

[hollywoodmarine]

discretion is the better part of valour

 

[KT229]

I have to agree with Cactus Jack on this one. I didn't vote either way. I'm a guest in your "home" if I do something to offend or break the rules and am asked to leave then it certainly is your choice on whether that matter is public or private.

I can't thank you enough for providing this service, you're doing an awesome job, and I trust your judgement. I searched for months trying to find info, help etc. but no site has what you've offered here, valuable information, support, fairness and respect of all members.

 

[Abstract]

Discretion.
I have not seen an instance in progress but do certainly hope it does not look like a trial.
I for one need to avoid rigidity or perfectionism and fear of speaking up. I have worked very long and hard and spent an awful lot of money on all of these issues.

Grammar and spelling are a very sore point. I used to be obsessive and anxious to the point of standstill. I hope I am always understandable and understand why my words need to be clear for others but the grammar rules almost frightened me away from the board. It is very unhealthy for me to become rigid or pedantic about these things.

I would hope that the aim is to keep the forum safe but always preferably avoiding:
Shaming.
Perfectionism.
Loss of assertivness.
Loss of flexibility.
Fear.

Thank you for the marvellous site, Anthony and for your dedication.

 

[Abstract]

Oh, and a post cript - I am very grateful that this is so well moderated. I looked and looked and would not contemplate using an unmoderated site and that therefore means almost all sites.

 

[becvan]

Ha it's funny. This poll was started because of the situation with me way back when! I voted for open disclosure, of course with discretion. If that had have been done in my case years ago, perhaps it would not have been such a hurtful mess (mind you if it had not happened that way we would never had voted on this to begin with!). I notice nowadays, that it's done pretty much right away with bare minimum detail and little impact. Very nice stuff. So it only took me 4 years to vote.. lol but I did it!

bec

 

[Abstract]

Thanks to you then , bec.