Ptsd Affecting My Marriage - Any Input?

[violetclouds]

I am worried about my marriage and my PTSD symptoms. My husband is awesome - tries so hard to be understanding - but this has changed our relationship drastically. I am not sure why but I feel so disconnected from him and he feels it too. He says he understands but I know he feels rejected. I am not able to be physical with him right now - just too difficult for reasons I won't go into. I am afraid he won't be able to handle the episodes I have and support me for long like this - and am afraid he will decide to leave me.

 

[Momofthree]

Part of that anxiety is most likely a symptoms of your PTSD you are sure you aren't worthy of him sticking around and you deserve to be left. That being said not knowing how long you have been dealing with this issue or how much help you are getting I can't say to much about it. I will say however that if you are working to get the disorder stabilized and keep communicating with your husband (Even when all you want to do is shut down and shut everyone out) then as long as he is committed to sticking this out your marriage will hopefully be stronger for this not weaker. Just be aware that you do need professional help other wise you will only get worse.

 

[violetclouds]

Thank you Momofthree - I am getting what help I can - which is limited because of my insurance. I know that some of what I feel is because of the PTSD, but it is hard to separate things right now. Thank you for your reply.

 

[anthony]

All very valid...

and am afraid he will decide to leave me

Have you both considered couples counselling? Nothing to do with PTSD... but an actual couples counsellor? You doing your thing with your therapist for PTSD should be kept aside from relationship counselling, even though PTSD and trauma are the cause, the solution has less to do with them and more to do with methods to get around those things purely for the sake of your relationship.

 

[violetclouds]

Thank you Anthony - and yes we are working with a counselor - but we just started so I guess I need to give it some time.