Poll PTSD and Marriage - How Many Times Have You Been Married?

[mikenanboy]

I'm on my second marriage. My first one was a disaster, very bad, almost cost me my life! I was such a mess back then, drunk all the time and mad at the world, looking back I am so amazed that I made it through. Waited 20+ years to try it again. I can say now that I found my soul mate and best friend in my second marriage:)! November will be 7 years and it seems like yesterday that we said "I Do". We have hardley had a cross word between us and it just keeps getting better and better every day!

 

[Linda Lee Bogard - King]

First husband was gay. I was 18 and thought, 'gay' meant 'happy' but he put a knife to my throat. Then I married again, my second husband was murdered in front of me.... my third husband, well ... found his cold body under suspicious circumstances - police never resolved his case... now, I have a lover (39) who has PTSD like me ... what a pair!

 

[njray]

2 for me .. and 2 divorces....... NOT blaming anyone but me as I should never have married either of them ..The ones that paid the price ultimately The kids....

 

[AngelaMarie]

This is the 3rd. If you count a 1 year marriage at 17. I really don't. I have this time been married over 13 years and plan to stick it out! My dream is to have a marriage for the rest of my life. Dreams do come true. Even if there are some nightmares in between.:)

 

[AngelaMarie]

It wasn't until I picked someone the COMPLETE opposite of my father that I got it right.

Absolutely 100% agree with that statement! I loved my father. He died last last year. However, he was truly messed up. Do not want to be married to my father again!!!!!

 

[The Albatross]

The first time I married someone like my father, only worse, much worse. The second time I married someone like my mother (ugh, how did that happen?)... but I'm sticking and so is he. Twenty years last November and 4 before we married. (It took him that long to convince me to try again.)

 

[cat]

I married at 19 against my father's wishes, he could see another side of my husband to be! It lasted 30yrs but unhappy for last 10 during which time i should have got out of it. Having had a traumatic childhood i married a man like my mother - domineering & with narcissistic behaviours.
I learnt the hard way, he is the cause of my ptsd. I dont think I will ever trust anyone enough for another relationship.

 

[Srain]

I am so sorry that you find it offensive and narrow minded that I think that being attractive, famous, rich, etc. makes one more marriagable.- Gloria

Gloria thanks for your extended answer. Because of the language barrier what I wanted to say came out in the wrong words. It was not my intention to suggest that you or anyone else is narrow minded. ( I just can't seem to find the right word for what I want to say).

Sterre....I have the HARDEST time sometimes...(like now!) to say things 'correctly'! I don't think it's always a language barrier maybe a brain barrier. It can be so frustrating to me. I just did it recently, again! Truly, it tends mostly to happen while online and makes me want to unplug for quite sometime. I hope you don't do this.

((((((((((((Sterre)))))))))))))))

Gloria, you crack me up ;) I think sometimes the companionship is just what we are looking for and sometimes ours alone is all we need.

Rain

 

[anni]

I've been married way too many times not to be a little silly but recently came to the conclusion, which I shared with Gloria, that I've also had exactly the right amount of divorces.

 

[BigBear]

My first was probably something similar to PTSD. I'm not a Psych, so I'm only guessing. I didn't understand what was going on. Now I understand a lot of things that I couldn't have then... She ran away and I think I died.

Almost immediately after, I fell in with the most wonderful PTSD girl you could ever imagine. Working on 15 years later. I can say it's been interesting. But she's also been the most wonderful thing that could have ever happened to me.

Sometimes I worry that she'll run away, but there is nothing I could do to stop her if she did... While I have her, She's mine, and if you mess with her, you are looking to cut your life short!

Bear

 

[Srain]

BigBear, I have to say that is the most lovely post :)

 

[jo may]

I've only been married once but I have thrown him out twice. But I honestly think it was due to my PTSD and depression. He's been great and very understanding but I worried he'll get fed up and leave he does so much and i do give him a lot of ear ache.