Random Texting

[KK3966]

I read a post awhile back about texting your significant other during the day w/random texts just saying "I love you" or something of that nature. Someone had wondered if this was a stessor and was looking to hear from those w/PTSD. My boyfriend has PTSD, so I asked him. And what he said was, "it depends on my mood or what I'm doing". So true. I didn't think about that. And for me, I have no way of knowing what kind of mood he's in. So, during the day when he's at work, I leave him alone. Other times, if he appears extremely stressed about something that's gone on.. I leave him alone or keep it really short & just let him know I'm there if he needs me.
Not sure it applies for everyone w/PTSD of course, but thought I'd put it out there...

 

[intothelight]

Hi KK3966,

A reminder that I am loved never bothers me, and it is nice to know especially when I am feeling particularly unlovable. I can only speak from my personal perspective and I am sure you will receive different responses.

It is great that you are both communicating openly. That is hugely helpful in a relationship.

Debbie

 

[Orsino]

For me it definitely helps. My fiance is the first person I've ever been able to properly let into my head other than my CBT/Psych counselor. I've even been able to set up a private tumblr journal with access for both of us that allows her to see directly into my head, which is a huge step for me. After seeing as she has when it comes to my PTSD having a reminder she still loves me is very reassuring and gives me more of an incentive and feeling to know I'm going in the right direction. Other than for her I'm mostly unable to feel any sort of positive emotion, and when I can its very unstable and to know I guess the emotion is returned makes me feel more secure?

 

[KK3966]

Oirsino..that's an interesting idea.. the journal. I think he needs reassurance sometimes. Other times, I think I'm just stressing him out. I try to pick up on the cues.

 

[stuff]

I find communicating via text very reassuring. There's no pressure to answer the phone or deal with anything immediately, but getting reassurance/support from afar is very comforting. I find it so much easier to say the things I need to say when I am writing them. And sometimes getting those kinds of messages from a distance helps me to really feel about them, more than I can over the phone where I'm usually trying to battle with hyperarousal stuff.

 

[LoyalOne]

My sufferer says he likes my texts, as long as I understand that he might not answer for a while.