TruthSeeker
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You are a successful person if you can be true to how and who you are, and be able to tell who that is when the pain is reduced. Connection holds risk, something that can't just be abridged intellectually. Sometimes starting with a plant or pet is a place to begin.
As to the title of the thread, I remember Thomas Merton saying along the lines of we will know only a brief second before the end that it will be so. It is said that connection most deeply enriches life and makes it meaningful. Maybe that is because you will be able to see that you are accepted (and treasured- it will be by some, not all) by just being yourself. Congruent with, and including, your strengths and weaknesses.
(Tbh, most people don't relate to other's strengths, more so their weaknesses or woundedness. Which revealing helps you both.)
You are a successful person if you can be true to how and who you are, and be able to tell who that is when the pain is reduced. Connection holds risk, something that can't just be abridged intellectually. Sometimes starting with a plant or pet is a place to begin.
As to the title of the thread, I remember Thomas Merton saying along the lines of we will know only a brief second before the end that it will be so. It is said that connection most deeply enriches life and makes it meaningful. Maybe that is because you will be able to see that you are accepted (and treasured- it will be by some, not all) by just being yourself. Congruent with, and including, your strengths and weaknesses.
(Tbh, most people don't relate to other's strengths, more so their weaknesses or woundedness. Which revealing helps you both.)
@Tinyflame Well, I agree people relate to each other's weaknesses and are even drawn to them. But since I've been battling PTSD, I look for people who can teach me a new way, because the family and folks I'd been hanging around didn't have those skills, nor did they have emotions with the exception of anger and hatred....so I try to make friends within my area of comfort/strength. So art is one place, music another. I come here to be with people who share similar feelings and experiences, and to know I'm not alone....but I don't think everyone gravitates to the weaker folks....maybe that is just me. However, I also believe when we are vulnerable, people unknowingly hook up with other people who will engage weakness conversations because of this weekness, they are drawn together-or they will seek to abuse (in my case). I'm real cautious about making tight relationships based on weaknesses, because I've gotten burned this way. But here on the forum, people just share-and that is just nice and supportive-that's my view, anyway and I don't see everyone here as being weak...or having a weakness.....I try to believe we all have something in common...and it isn't all bad.
I go to a T (someone trained and educated to know more than me) because I suck at the emotions, the social/personal communication, the rules (rules and I are great friends...I have too many rules that get in the way), and flaky internal communication. My T get's parts.....hence the attraction for me is that she knows more than I do today about that subject and I need to learn so I can be healthier. I see my T like I'm taking a long, intensive course on being a functional human being. Maybe I'm different, but I think different people's reasons to connect is different for each person they meet. Just a thought.