Responses To Your Therapist That You Will Probably Never Say

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And how on earth is that helpful or relevant to anything?!!! :devilish:

 

[shoulderblades]

"I self-medicate and there's nothing you can do about it."

Also, any time I'm asked "why" about something. "Why do you feel this?" "Why do you feel that?" That's what YOU'RE supposed to be helping me figure out, buddy. If I knew why, I wouldn't be bothering with therapy, hey.

 

[Hashi]

If I knew why, I wouldn't be bothering with therapy, hey.

I have actually said to my therapist, when she asked me for my ideas on how to approach something, "I don't know, you're the one who understands how to deal with this. I'll just do what you say."

I was only half joking. Well, more like 10%.

And she did suggest what I could do. Phew!

 

[HëllaBubz]

I'll just do what you say

Mine won't let me get away with that! He's a bit of a hard nut, but at the same time is not abrasive.....he seems to find ways to work with the fact that I kind of self medication (increasing doses, ect.), but he won't let me get away with bullshit either.

Irritating, but needed. I've never walked out of there feeling like I still had crap on my chest. (figuratively of course!)

 

[HëllaBubz]

And how on earth is that helpful or relevant to anything?!!!

Well, one of his ways (I think) of showing me how he works, is to almost provoke me a little with what could be inflammatory observations, if I chose to take it that way.......he is also (it appears) rather interested in the fact that I have done so well alone, and been able to get better without the financial incentive to stay worse for reimbursement's sake.....

Apparently people who are seeking compensation from employers for a work related incident are notoriously difficult to treat, but I'm a little more unique in my circumstances, hence the comment from him.

He doesn't allow you to pick and choose symptoms from a list he provides, you need to learn to verbalize and tell him what you want help with.

Like I said, irritating, but good for me too.

 

[Spot]

My T is decent but he annoys me with some of things he comes out with. The top one has to be "Well I think that you should just try to keep on going until your next appointment" ...at the end of EVERY session.

I just sit clenching my jaw thinking, 'Oh good, and here was me thinking you wanted me to actively let my life descend into chaos; hide under the covers all day and take the time to figure out the best 5 ways to kill myself and then see if I can do them simultaneously. Glad that’s cleared up, I was just about to go and do exactly this after two years of slowly and painfully building my life back to something functional. Wow, you’re like a hero or something. Thank god for your words...'

 

[shoulderblades]

"Stop with the platitudes."

Therapists love platitudes.

 

[Emma13]

T: "Are there any other things you haven't shared with me?"

First change the T to a C. I see a counselor.
Me: "Yes, I would like to tell you that I have hyper-sexuality and hyper-arousal, but I know there is a chance that as a "Christian" you would have a problem with it."

Actually I no longer see that counselor. I switched to someone else; because I wanted to deal with it. Instead of just talking about it.

 

[Emma13]

After I used the terms survivor. When talking about what I went through.
C: You shouldn't label yourself.
Me: "the survivor label is just fine. Why? Cause I am a SURVIVOR!!!!

 

[cookinggal]

My therapist always says: Lets take a deep breathe together
Answer I would like to say: Can I not do it myself

 

[HëllaBubz]

I've just discovered my psych has a sense of humor!

Sent my reciept to the home address (mail getting stolen), instead of the PO Box I had provided, so he promised to change my address on file so that the PO Box was the only address read by the computer, in effect, stating that I lived in, using his hands to shape, a little box in the wall.

Just the way he did it made me chuckle, I am absolutely delighted when people show a sense of humor, I cherish it so much.

 

[HëllaBubz]

T: Now just to be clear, I am NOT telling you to break up with your partner, I just want to know what you would do in certain circumstances.
Me: Well that's good, because if you did tell me to break up with him, I'd tell you to get stuffed.
T: Well I wouldn't anyway because that's not my place to say something like that.
Me: Well my psychologist obviously doesn't feel that way because he took my situation personally and reacted quite violently, and that's why I'm seeing you, not him!

And other excerpt.....

T: Chewing his fingernails and talking around them.....
Me: Didn't you get enough to eat for breakfast?

(What I wanted to say was....)
Stop chewing your fingernails, look what you did to your little finger already! (He is missing last half of that digit)