Responses To Your Therapist That You Will Probably Never Say

[Let It Be]

I went back to this counselor after not having seen her for a month. I did come away again with shaking my head over things that she would say. It was a different experience this time and it was her idea not to make another appointment to see her.

When the session began and all through it, I was being attacked by knats. I would kill one and then another one would appear. She made the comment that she thought that she had gotten them all but at the same time she didn't know where they were coming from.

Not everyday you go to counseling and have to swat at knats, but I did yesterday.

 

[Recovery4Me]

What I always wanted to ask a T but didn't..."So what is your acronym?"

 

[Melissa D]

My counselor retired and she referred me to someone she felt I would be very compatible with. With my previous counselor, we would discuss different topics. For a while we would focus on work, then parenting, then marriage etc. The new counselor would not do that. She was only willing to focus on one area of interest. When I asked why, she said "It's a conflict of interest."
WTF??? What is a conflict of interest?

 

[Changing4Best]

Man! I have no idea. It doesn't make any sense to me either. I'd suggest looking for another counselor. One who is willing to work the way you are accustomed to and are comfortable with. Get the agreement, then test the waters. If it does not work out, find another counselor and repeat the same.

Don't expect, however, for your new counselor to be like your old one that you are used to. They each have their own style, even though they may be working with the same process. (ie. CBT or EMDR, etc.).

 

[digger]

T : "We can talk about this some more next week and about managing while I'm away the week after."

digger' s head : "Okay.......hey wait!....almost got me there huh! I don't need this you know. You do know that right? I don't need to be here/therapy/you/your help!!! Silly you thinking that! :rolleyes: I manage just fine. Take as many holidays as you like. I only come back and fall apart in your office each week to keep you in a job don't you know! I don't neeeeeed to.............WHEN ARE YOU COMING BACK?"

 

[Emi]

You just need to learn to relax, you have a lot of stress and anxiety.

Oh, it's that simple is it? I don't know HOW to relax and no sh*t, why do you think I'm here?

 

[Deleted member 27340]

I'm in therapy because I've been forced into it through my family, and with every single therapist I've had I just said stuff like these straightforward out. When I was 12 I made a therapist cry without even trying, all I wanted was to defend myself.

Now I'm less sarcastic, though, because my T is in such close communication with my father. I'd rather not get my dad pissed off because I accidentally reminded my T that the window behind her is a thousand times more interesting than whatever the heck is coming out of her mouth.

Some stuff I've said would be
"If you were to understand me I'd have to do certain things to you that would've made you wish you were never born, so how about you just shut the f*ck up and leave me alone instead?"
and
(in response to questions about why I cut myself) "Because when you're freaking depressed and all you wanna do is die it feels f*cking good."

 

[Recovery4Me]

(in response to questions about why I cut myself) "Because when you're freaking depressed and all you wanna do is die it feels f*cking good."

I clicked like (although I am sad that you are in pain) :hug: because it was a big step (to me) to express your rage and authenticity somewhere out loud.

I dearly respect & love someone as a friend (that I recommended to this site) and she is afraid to let her anger & pain surface as it conflicts with her beliefs. She too is a cutter and doing Somatic Therapy.

So, I am glad that you felt 'safe enough' here to express and wanted to offer...I am in awe of how courageous you are. I am glad you are here among us posting. Be gentle with yourself, please.

 

[EmmaDancing]

I love this thread so much! Now I've been in and out of mental hospitals for years now (still there ugh) and all those social workers have their own brand of insanity. These are all stuff I've actually said to them lol

• DR: Did you have an unhappy childhood? ME: I don't know - did you?
• DR: So what do you mean when you say that the antidepressant is working for you? ME: It's an antidepressant…what do you think it's helping me with, acne?
• SW: What do you do when you feel like cutting? ME: ………um..cut.
• SW: Now, how can we help you here? ME: Send me home.
• MHS: Are you angry right now? ME(kicking a wall): Wow - total rocket science right there.

 

[Recovery4Me]

@EmmaDancing :hug:'s if you accept them...if not I will share my wall for us to kick together:banghead:

Response to a therapist I could never say but often wanted to in order to recognize them heart wise..."So what pain drove you to heal others?"

 

[Nighthawk]

@Recovery4Me That is the first question I ask. Just not in the same words.

 

[Recovery4Me]

@Nighthawlk :hug:
I was told by a T that I was redirecting with 'other' focus and I needed to concentrate on my story. :meh:
Perhaps, times have changed and it is allowable by some T's now and does not signal transference, avoidance or lack of trust.