Suicide Is Not An Option But An Unwelcome Invitation To Hell For The Survivors

[Tinyflame]

Dear @Ms Spock , please forgive me- I didn't me to dictate like I know something you don't! So much you could teach me! Just a bit I've learned working one-to-one with so many people. And you are right, speaking is very critical. And most definitely Always a pleasure to speak with you Dear Ms Spock. :hug:

@Linda Lee Bogard - King , much as suicide & depression & ptsd are very different & difficult for those with it, I am very very sorry for you & your SO's loss. :( :cry: I will say some for you two & him. God is the judge, it's more often an act of desperation to end the pain. :( I'm sure he just wanted peace. Attitude doesn't help so much as support.

 

[ms spock]

Dear @Ms Spock , please forgive me- I didn't me to dictate like I know something you don't! So much you could teach me! Just a bit I've learned working one-to-one with so many people. And you are right, speaking is very critical. And most definitely Always a pleasure to speak with you Dear Ms Spock. :hug:

Every day I learn something new @Junebug, if I am not stuck in rumination. And there is heaps for me to learn from you and the rest of the forum. And you know I read that post at the exact moment that I needed to - it was timely.

I am very grateful Junebug for you taking the time to respond.

 

[ms spock]

A sense of compassion and empathy are important - to my mind. If you are burnt out from looking after someone then that is a different matter.

 

[Linda Lee Bogard - King]

I was not trying to make light of the "blues" @Pencil The "we" is for those survivors of life and death trauma having more than a bad day, maybe an unexpected event occurs that triggers past events - what I call the PTSD Blues, a downward spiral to the first time you experienced trauma. My boyfriend was feeling his PTSD Blues since his friend killed himself the day before. He has buried seven friends in the last four years. And he is the one that went to war - made it back to find his friends are dying all around him, here at home. So, to us it is the PTSD BLUES very much unlike the monday blues or baby blues. I am 64 years old this October My first dead body..age four. I still see the little girl who was running across the street to see me get hit by a car... Yeah, I get the PTSD Blues..[DOUBLEPOST=1406177631,1406177430][/DOUBLEPOST]Sad thing @Junebug too many people judge. Me included, then I put myself in check... I am no better than anyone else ..I only try to be better than I was yesterday.

 

[Tinyflame]

It's ok @Linda Lee Bogard - King , we all do & we're all human & we all at best have limited understanding. The only thing I understand with any certainty is that I don't & likely won't, ever fully! :hug:

Isolated happenings can cause terrible spirals. :(

 

[Linda Lee Bogard - King]

Haha.. Complex PTSD, is always in need of constant maintenance:-)

 

[cherrysweets89]

My friend took his own life, I was bitter and sad til I realised I was being selfish, thinking what I was going to do without him, who I'd talk to when I was low, wanting him to endure in his personal hell to be there for me; there are two aspects, selfishness of those who take their own lives, and the selfishness of those who don't understand the pain, believing it's their right to make you endure, for their sake. I miss my friend, but I understand why he did what he did and don't undermine the decison he made.

 

[In Exile]

My niece just attempted suicide. I really would like to, but I think that it would overwhelm my wife and cause too many problems for my children.

But damn, it would sure be nice if the pain could go away.