Terrified

[Casey_03]

Sorry for posting so much over these past few days, there is a lot going on. I posted earlier about how my employer recently refused to provide me with a work permit due to my pregnancy (which means they were effectively firing me, by forcing me to be an illegal resident without the permit). I raised a huge fuss, a lot of people stood up for me, and the end result is that the company has now promised to get the work permit (though let's see if they follow through on that promise). But here is the really disturbing thing: The real reason they refused the work permit and put me through that hell (three days of sheer panic, hyperventilating, worrying about where i would go now while 6 months pregnant and how i'd even afford the birth and to feed the baby) ... the real reason .. is that the abusive father of the baby contacted my boss by email claiming i was going to scam the company for the maternity leave, and then just quit the job immediately after. Mind you, my boss did not know this man, which means this was just an email from an unknown person accusing me of something. But my boss believed it, without consulting me. He never even told me about this. The baby's father has been threatening to "ruin my life" from the beginning; he told me he was going to get me fired so that there'd be so much instability in my life i'd get an abortion. Then, after an abortion was no longer possible, he started demanding adoption. This is an abusive sociopath. He has made the pregnancy hell. He has put his own child in jeopardy by treating me this way and constantly bullying me. Now he has affected my work, and my boss believed him. It feels like two sociopaths ganging up on me. Knowing that this sociopath father of my baby has such reach, and that he can apparently just make up lies about me and nearly cost me my job, my life and my baby, what do i do? He can do this any time he wants know, just email my boss with some bullshit lies and try to ruin my life. I don't feel safe here. I don't know what to do. I want to quit, just so he can't find me and do things like this. But then I can't take care of the baby. What do I do?

 

[Ronin]

Can you / how can you, safely air what he's doing?

& get to the people he's depending on to create good impression to?

Tl;dr if you didn't worry about him ruining your reputation, what steps you need to take to ruin /his/?

 

[Casey_03]

I can't ruin his reputation. The second I do anything to him, he will retaliate against me. He still has revenge porn he has threatened to send out. He has nothing to lose. Even if I contact his family, so what? He's not going to care if they get mad at him for a day. I can't have him prosecuted in any way, because he has cleverly harassed me/my employer using only fake/temporary email addresses and never his real name.

 

[Ronin]

If he sends it out, he's incriminating himself.

& that bit of primitive conning should still be diggable.

What and/or who does he care for?
Related: What other areas of his life you can attack? Maybe less direct, but still?

Everyone has something they do care for. Not in the emotional sense either: something they need to function.

Related thought: Is there something you can get his mother to do that /would/ hurt him? If only to keep him busy in his backyard a while?

You're not helpless, he's not omnipotent, he's a weak shitbag.

You'll keep you & your baby safe. You're stronger than a manipulative f*ckhead.