What Is Beauty????

[Deleted member 1860]

Oh good Lord put me on ignore. I don't attack you yet you choose to see things this way. Yes, another facet that was so soon forgotten. If I'm attacking you, report me and get me banned.

Oh right, I'm not attacking you so I won't be banned. Stop playing the victim. This is the exact thing that keeps you stuck in your healing yet you refuse to see it. We've been through all this before and admins have told you to put me on ignore. I think you don't do it because you much rather fight than do hard work on healing.

 

[Namenotdiagnosis]

I felt very sad when I read your post as I could identify so much with it. I've always wanted to be"white" because i was the darkest amongst my siblings I was classed as being ugly , not by my family but others . I eve washed my face in bleach to try and become lighter. Then my abusers did the same to me for years ,taunted me about how ugly I was etc, I'm 44 and only started wearing making up now as I felt really ugly and could hear them hurtful words ring in my ears by my abusers. But how can one define beauty? Surely as humans we are all beautiful , as individuals regardless of race ethnicity nationality surely beauty is within. When I look around and see children without limbs, or people who have been disfigured through fire accidents and people who are severely disabled , when I see them smile and be brave and face life then surely that's beauty! I think we get so wrapped up in artificial beauty. And confuse it with natural beauty. Just -trust no1 you are beautiful intelligent kind person. Don't let anyone tell you Anything different, I'm so sorry you have been crying that made me upset. Please be strong and believe in yourself. I hope you are having a better day x keep smiling xxx

 

[Friday]

Lol... I'm a 6' tall scandavian chick who grew up in SE Asia. My ideal of feminine beauty (aka what I would want to look like/ aspire to) is something I will never be... Cause I'm never gonna be a tiny, fine boned, feisty Japanese chick.

((Cartman voice: I'm not fat! I'm just big boned!... LOL. Actually, I am fat right now. But even runway thin I'm all angles & curves. I'll never have the catlike bone structure I find so sexy.))

Upside... That's only my ideal. I love and adore the way other people from all over the world look. I think it's fascinating that our spirits and our minds are all housed in these very different / very much the same/ gorgeous, amazing bodies. I see beauty in most people. Visual artist. I look at people and see who they were, who they will be, who they could be, who they want to be. Different ages, styles, walks of life. It's like a flowing montage of images that follow people around.

August Rodin is my absolute favorite sculptor of all time. He sees. Moreover, he can make nearly anyone see. The woman, ravaged by time and experience, the young girl still inside her. And the beauty that is in both. I can, and have, just stared at his work for hours. And the more I look? The more I see. Beauty emerging from darkness, wrath hidden inside a pretty vessel, hopes, dreams, passions, loss. God, I simply love his work. Beauty in so many unexpected places. Like life. It just takes being able to see it.

I've dated so many different kinds of people... Just focusing on the aesthetics for a moment... Skin ranging from that beautiful blue black sheen, to molten chocolate, sunlit teak, caramel, red bronze, creamy pale, blossom pink. Slashed & burned with scars, constellations of freckles, smooth, rough, broken, mended. Hair that feels like silk, or velvet, to twisted curls, straw, spun glass or wire. Shaved, braided, loose. Muscles inter playing under skin... From so strong they don't make sense in my mind, or whipcord that should never be as strong as it is, and is always 3x that, to soft & gentle, untested or done served their time. Bones that make my own look slight, to delicate structure so fine I'm afraid of breaking them. Planes, angles, fine lines... To curves and sensuous lines blending one Ito the other. The only commonality? Eyes that laugh, spark, gleam. People are beautiful. Of all kinds.

 

[J_trustno1]

@FridayJones : Lol, I wanted to be at least 5'5 and 5'7 would've been ideal but I can't change from being 5'3. You have a great height. I wanted to be a middle eastern woman but then again I wouldn't want to deal with their culture and wearing black burka even in summer and their specific laws especially for women. Btw I have noticed heads turns while crossing the road But then again I don't want uncles or perverts staring, I only want one guy who will love me for me and forget all the differences and see me as a human. That's all that matters at the end of the day. Thanks for always replying on my threads, I really value your answers :hug:s.

@Nighthawk : I'm really sorry for your experience. I hope you start seeing the beautiful person you are. You have helped many of us here and I think that is what beauty should actually mean other than those superficial materialistic standards that are created by media, culture and our society. Thanks for the reply. :hug:s

 

[Spiderallis]

Ouch, some hurtful and nasty untrue things said long ago have left deep imprints. Beauty is something different to every single one of us- it doesn't have to be any particular set of aesthetics. Beauty can be a spiritual quality, or a sense of enjoyment in life, or maybe it's the twinkle in someone's eye as they share a kind word. Confidence is often brought up as the basis of beauty, so that's a good place to start. Maybe try putting together a list of the traits and qualities you value most about yourself? Those are ways in which you are most beautiful; enjoy them, revel in them, even flaunt it once in a while if you're feeling cheeky.

 

[Changing4Best]

I don't wear make-up, jewelry or fancy cloths. I do like colorful cloths though, and I wear them often. I don't dye my hair either and it is 100% gray. None the less, I have been told that I am beautiful.

I think beauty is something that is over-rated. It is your personality that people see in the long run. Being kind to others, paying them compliments, sharing, listening to others and acknowledging them, these are the kind of things that are much more important than how a person looks.

 

[Ronin]

I'm not sure I have much to say to beauty (though I tend to see it in people a lot, and life all around the place) because most often, it's not in my goals (ugly and proud, it's ineffective I struggle with / skills related issues that effect my self image badly). I don't think beauty is something that can, or should, be defined, only looked for, found and re-found, and cherished.