What Is It About Us?

[onesie]

Guys we all have been hurt, or we wouldn't be on here. Does it really matter whose is worse or not? We need support, validation, understanding, and compassion. Please, let's focus on helping.;)

 

[JarHed]

Hey Kas

I wasn't offended by your post, I find the discussion of great interest. So much is still unknown about our minds, truly a universe unto itself.

I like what Justmehere said and I agree. I see and know so many vets that suffer from combat PTSD. Some in treatment and others not. I believe as well that if we were in a supported environment that the likelyhood of a better recovery or perhaps I should say a lessening of symptoms might be possible. At the present and as well as in the past both the military and non-military people's mindset towards soldiers is that we 'should' be able to overcome this condition. The old 'pull yourself up by the boots straps' idea. How I and many others wish that were true or even possible.

As a VietNam Vet, I suffered for a very long time not know or even having a clue as to the reasons why. So much more is known about PTSD today, thankfully and there are treatments available. It's just a very complex thing and is different for everyone that suffers from it.


JarHed

 

[atthree]

You know for my trauma, was about being forgiven. In my mind know body could forgive me for what I'd done.

It's a person with a conscience that has PTSD, so the 70% don't have one

 

[BlackbirdSinging]

I don't know why some get it and some don't. Trauma is traumatic so we ended up traumatized. Intrusive thoughts are intrusive not invited. I don't think it has to do with letting go though. I can only speak for myself but I'm not holding onto my past in any kind of conscious way. My brain is traumatized frozen and stuck. If it was about letting go of things that happened I think I'd be in a different place right now. I can't tell you how many times I've not only let go of things that have happened to me I've literally begged for them to be taken from me. And I still have PTSD. Maybe it's genetics. I don't know. I just know that I have it.

 

[JarHed]

Intrusive thoughts are intrusive not invited.

I like that saying, although it's so very true. One of the difficulties with PTSD is that people that have no experience with it or have never had a traumatic experience just have a hard time understanding it all. Let's face it, we have a hard time understanding it all.

I don't think about my combat experiences every minute of every day, but I do have to say that I do think about them every day. No always a bad thing. Time is a large factor. And like Blackbird said, they aren't invited.

JarHed

 

[bell]

Good to see I wasn't the only one called "dramatic." I was told I had a "very active imagination" and that I was an excellent "actress," with a penchant for being "dramatic." Every time I was called an "actress" about what happened to me, a little bit of me died inside. Thankfully, with therapy, I've now been able to build that back up. :)

 

[atthree]

@BlackbirdSinging "I don't think it has to do with letting go though." this is just like what they told me to do,"Forget about it." It's basic sign of my PTSD and it is hurtful to others I don't remember.

I have this at three right, imagine my teachers on exams and tests.This is where forgiveness is key to my life's path.

 

[BlackbirdSinging]

@BlackbirdSinging "I don't think it has to do with letting go though." this is just like what they told me to do,"Forget about it." It's basic sign of my PTSD

While I think there is a difference between letting go and forgetting neither have worked for me. From my experiences the only way through it has been to work through it. And I'm still in a place where I'm working through it. It's hard but no matter how hard I've tried forgetting it it just never worked for me.