When you have knocked the ashtray to the floor every single day this week, and it has never occurred to you to MOVE the ashtray.
When you put your sock on twisted, and you go half a day with it being somewhat painful, and it doesn't occur to you to set down, take off your shoe, and adjust the damned sock...
When you have not been doing self care on your dry skin since it has gotten colder, and people stare at your scaly arms in the store, and you reply, I am OLD.... and have a tiny little snarl starting to form at the corner of your mouth.... getting ready to snap and bite, that is, if you still have teeth...