I Got My Ex-boyfriend Fired Deliberately

[brokenupme]

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend about four and half months ago and I found out he was cheating and lying to me for several months. I was really angry and of course hurt. Just after our split he got a promotion with a 40 percent pay raise. I was sitting on a mountain of pain while he was out frolicking with this new tramp. I had been diagnosed with PTSD about 10 years ago when I was in a physically abusive relationship. My partner had BP2 adn BPD. This breakup triggered a depressive episode and resurfaced my PTSD. With my PTSD comes rage. I thought I was getting past everything until I saw photos that he posted on snapchat of them both. I became enraged and decided I wanted to get back at him. I logged into his email (he gave me his password previously) and wrote an email pretending to be him. The email detailed a drunken weekend out using drugs, racist vents about my ex's boss and co-workers, sexual contagions bout the VP's wife, and the last paragraph contained offensive remarks about the HR manager who recruited him. I sent it to the HR manager to make it look like he'd accidentally sent it to her instead of a friend, then deleted the email from his sent account. Naturally the company had to have responded. My guess is that he will be fired. I feel no guilt over this event considering how much he lied to me, but something keeps nagging me to feel like I should be sorry for this.

Thoughts?

 

[joeylittle]

How long had you been together?

 

[RussH]

regardless of how he has treated you, your actions are wrong, and possibly opens you up to a slander law suit.

 

[intothelight]

You were hurt and you struck out and how you feel is how you feel. Each person has choices and ultimately we all deal with the results of the decisions we make.

 

[The Albatross]

"Thoughts?"

You may feel no guilt about what you did because you felt justified in some way by retaliation. The conscience niggling you that you should feel sorry about this is right. If you've got a T, it's worthy of a few sessions.

 

[Friday]

That it's an abusive thing to do, and a total bitch move.

Having been abused doesn't give you the right to abuse others.

It's also stalking & identity theft. Both of which are illegal. If your ex-boyfriend's company has any smarts at all they can trace that email to your IP address.

 

[ladee]

No way was this justified... Having PTSD never ever excuses us for hurting others... never. Hope that little niggling feeling leads you to do the right thing for the right reasons.. It may not bother you now, but you aren't going to be hurt forever.

 

[EveHarrington]

Never accept passwords from future partners if you know you can destroy their lives?

I know you were hurting but if he was indeed fired------and I'm guessing he was as it would be hard to prove that his email was hacked (at least immediately)-------then this could indeed change the course of the rest of his life.

I hope you seek anger management therapy soon.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

I have to say, there have been many times in my life when I wished I could strike back with such vengeance. I think I'm probably very lucky that I could never quite bring myself to follow through. I'm certainly in no position to judge you, though.

I'm curious. Do you feel better for having done it? Did it give you some sense of justice?

 

[Sammyiam]

Two wrongs never make a right

 

[Deleted member 28740]

Your actions have nothing to do with having PTSD. This made me sick literally, and just a niggle of concern you have for trashing someone's life. If not for what you have done to their life, you should be very concerned about repercussions legal and otherwise.

 

[Ronin]

Thoughts?

You deserve whatever's coming /your/ way, and I'm glad that man is away from you. No sympathy.