I Got My Ex-boyfriend Fired Deliberately

[Deleted member 12723]

Inexcusable! Consequences.

 

[Heather]

It'll be interesting to see if op does resurface.

 

[Sandstone]

See also
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2011/08/type_r_for_revenge.html and http://www.psychforums.com/relationship/topic182423.html
Troll

 

[Lucycat]

Well spotted. Time this thread was closed perhaps?

 

[Emmie420]

I don't like the way people are responding here. At the end of the day, people make mistakes and clearly this is a person suffering from trauma. I would have thought people on here would be a lot more understanding instead of judgemental and self righteous.

 

[scout86]

@Emmie420 , I'm wondering both how you define "judgemental and self-righteous" and what kind of responses you think would be more appropriate. (Not rhetorical questions. Your definitions seem to be different than mine and I'm wondering what they are.) What I got from the replies was pretty much "we can see why you'd be upset, but that was the wrong way to handle it". JMO, but, if she or he wasn't making most of that up, I can see why she'd be upset, but that was the wrong way to handle it.

Just because someone hurts you, that doesn't give you the right to hurt them. Two wrongs really don't make a right. And, he has the right to move on to an new relationship. She's got plenty of reason to be angry, if he cheated on her, but no reason at all to care what he does after that. And to sabotage his career? Does someone who'd do that sound like relationship material to you? And, do you really help someone who's that far out of line by saying "You go girt!" or words to that affect? I don't think so. I think the members who replied to the OP were pretty honest and pretty discerning.

 

[Lucycat]

@Emmie420 you might notice that the original poster has now been banned. People are not unsympathetic - they were detecting unusual posting behaviour that was designed to incite a reaction - as it has.

As @Sandstone noted - this story was first posted elsewhere in 2011.

 

[EveHarrington]

I think the OP has greater problems than PTSD if he/she/whatever gets his/her/their jollies by punking psych type forums.

It's kind of sick if you think about it.

 

[Neverthesame]

@Emmie420

I don't understand what you mean?

I am here as a result of a drink driver causing several deaths of people around me, as well as nearly killing me as well.

I have anger problems along with the ptsd. I have always had a temper, but it got alot worse after I developed ptsd.

If I were to drive around on the motorways at night looking for people who are drink driving, following them home and assaulting them physically when they step out of their cars.

What would that make me?

• A righteous fighter of the people wronged by societies ills?
• A vigilante able to circumvent the bureaucratic red tape, preventing actual law enforcement from enacting swift brutal justice on those clearly deserving?

Or would it make me?

• A violent psychopath, out hurting people who while not innocent, don't deserve to have their heads bashed in for a stupid choice?
• Someone who uses mental illness as an excuse to harm other's, hurting countless innocent people who have been hurt in horrible ways, by furthering the stigma and misinformation, which paints people who have ptsd as violent lunatics, not people who suffered tragedy and abuse.

You say it is from a place of holier than thou place of judgement, that we have been condemning the actions of this "victim".
In a sense, yes.

No one would have said anything If it didn't serve them, or me, in some way. This is true of everything everyone ever does, always.

Why were we so keen to condemn this person?
I can't speak for others here. Nor do I need to. My reasoning for what I said is this.

Look what I said earlier about being a psychopathic looney, assaulting people who drink drive. I don't do that, because it is wrong. I have never done that. I will never do that. I still know that it is wrong.

I don't have to have done so, to understand why it is wrong.

It is a totally over the top, violent behaviour being enacting on someone to has nothing to do with the person who made me this way in the first place.

This "person\troll" whichever. Is gloating about having taken brutal revenge on a man who committed infidelity. Making him pay for the feelings caused by a totally different man that beat her.

If she had done this to her actual abuser, while still "wrong". This would at least have been a reasonable target.

Don't forget as well this was not done immediately after discovering the infidelity. This was not a moment of sudden anger from being wronged. This was months later. This person went to the man's social media thing, looking for something to rile herself up with. This was not an accidental discovery. She knew she would find images of a distressing nature. Such as images of this man and his "tramp".

There was no need for this.

This is why I condemned her actions.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Emmie420 what I guess you don't understand is..... This type of behavior is not accepted in society. It isn't accepted in a court of law and certainly shouldn't be accepted in a mental health forum.

Wether this person is suffering from trauma or is a troll, the behavior she has exhibited is unacceptable.

 

[Emmie420]

@Emmie420

I don't understand what you mean?

I am here as a result of a drink...

It's pretty obvious that what this person has done is wrong. No one is disputing that.
"This was not a moment of sudden anger from being wronged. This was months later." - That is pretty much how PTSD works. Most of the responses were fine but there are people here trying to insinuate that she is a psychopath which is vile. People with PTSD often lash out ,feel vengeful or act on impulse. It's not rare. An appropriate response would be "Its clear your still affected by how your ex treated you and you have a lot of anger but what you did was wrong, maybe try different ways to release your anger and see a therapist", rather then 'I hope you get what is coming to you' or 'Inexcusable! Consequences' which in my opinion sounded judgmental. Just because you are in place where you can handle things in the right way, doesn't mean that everyone else is, some people have a longer way to go. This isn't a message strictly directed at you @Neverthesame, I'm just saying it in general.

 

[Casey_03]

So I know this poster was a troll (from what we can tell), but just want to add my two cents that I actually don't think her behavior sounds like PTSD at all. To me it sounds more like borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. She shows no remorse, has no empathy, and it's all about her ego. And she seems to be greatly overestimating her ability to get someone fired -- if this actually happened, i'd guess the guy didn't get fired and the people at his work who received the email realized it was someone else. Because the description she provided of what she wrote was WAY over the top and trying too hard. Didn't even sound very convincing in making his co-workers think he'd written it. No subtlety whatsoever. It sort of screams "psycho ex-girlfriend trying frantically to get revenge." I have a feeling whoever read it immediately said, "Hmm, wonder if his email has been hacked."