How Do You Observe Feelings Without Judgement?

[Deleted member 12723]

ITL said this in a post. I wonder how do you observe feelings without judgement? I do not know how to do this. I struggle with having feelings and I get all confused and mixed up. I would love to observe feelings without judgement.

 

[Abstract]

Dear Gizmo,

It is so very hard. It can help so much though. I have done a lot of work on this and have come far. Often I am not able to but many times are successful. I don't know if you have ever done any mindfulness work but it changed my life. That and "radical acceptance". Are you familiar with these?

:hug:

 

[Nicolette]

I wonder how do you observe feelings without judgement?

This may help you Gizmo http://www.the-guided-meditation-site.com/mindfulness.html

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so much Nicolette. This is exacltly what I was looking for.:)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Abstract, I am not familiar with radical acceptance. I am just learning about mindfulness thanks to the linc from Nicolette.

Please tell me about radical acceptance. Thank you very much for sharing this with me.:)

 

[saffy]

I have not heard about radical acceptance either so would be interested.

The above link is good I was going to recommend that myself :tup: I read a lot of buddist/taoist teachings and practice what I can, when I can. A good deal of inner peace has been gained through this.

I found some of these exercises helpful. http://ptsd.about.com/od/selfhelp/tp/mindfulexercises.htm

I hope this helps :)

best wishes
Saffy

 

[Ayasha]

I'm rather curious of what people have to say here as well because allowing myself to feel emotion and NOT judge it is something I'm having trouble doing.

I don't know if this counts but when I realize I'm feeling an emotion I try to identify it and then understand why I feel that way. It's hard not to tell myself 'you shouldn't feel this' but if we're feeling an emotion then I guess there must be some reason for us to feel them.

~Ayasha

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thanks so much Saffy, I checked out your linc and put it on my favorites so I keep it. I really appreciate your doing that so much.

 

[Nicolette]

Please tell me about radical acceptance.

It's the same type of surrender the Buddhists call "radical acceptance." Radical acceptance is accepting what is on a deep level without judgment - not saying it's right or wrong but just that it is.
[DLMURL]http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/real-healing/201101/radical-acceptance[/DLMURL]

Seems to have a lot to do with Buddhists Gizmo

Here is another link http://www.tarabrach.com/articles/trauma.html where she says “Radical Acceptance,” which means clearly recognizing what we are feeling in the present moment and regarding that experience with compassion.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so much for all of this wonderful information. I see I have so much to learn but I am so excited. I am so grateful to you Nicolette for your helping me today. it is really helping me out so much.:)

 

[Thinkingman85]

I thinks it's natural for me to continue judging my feelings. I am aware that there are feelings that I don't want so accepting them is hard. I accept that I'm hurt and I don't judge that fact that much. I wish I could tell you more, but being in tune with the moment didn't get rid of my depression. There are other factors.

 

[nimkekaa]

I wonder how do you observe feelings without judgement

For me this means labelling the feeling but not trying to justify it.

I think that when you are abused you learn to, not feel, hide feelings, not trust your feelings and have a need to justify your feelings. I learned to not feel when it was too painful to feel, I hid my feelings when they would get me into trouble, I didn't trust my feelings when I was told what was happening to me really didn't happen and when I did cry I tried hard to justify that I had the right to cry so that I didn't get into trouble.

So it's obvious how just looking at a feeling and not judging wether I have the right to it etc would be difficult. But for me it is well worth the effort. I spend hours trying to understand if I have a right to my feelings. When I have actually been able to observe and label a feeling without judgement it is heavenly. I would not judge someone else who is crying to try and decide if they have the right to cry so why do I do that for myself?

I just wish I spent more time trying to do this then I do.