This Might Be A Stupid Question But...

[winterose]

Can you go through a crisis being normal then bam everything hits at once? Like the fall out is days later or 2 weeks later? I'm asking because I was ok, well, somewhat ok with abuser dying, then dad getting sick, then we had huge good news, and then more bad news and today I am getting flashes, anxiety attacks and damn am I irritable. My memories aren't staying with one event or time either. Man this sucks.

 

[maddog]

Very, very normal, and very, very tough. I think delayed reactions of all sorts, particularly those relating to complicated trauma and grief reactions, are very common. As much as it doesn't feel like it, it's all very normal, and healthy in the long run to let your reactions run their course at a time like this.

Take lots of careful care of yourself and seek whatever supportive and healthy connections you can through this time.

Maddog

 

[winterose]

Oh god thank you Maddog. I was giving myself a good talking to too. Like really? NOW you're going to fall apart AFTER you got through ok....I can be my worse critic I guess.

 

[71nothing]

I think it's very normal. The same thing happens to me with each new crisis. I go into a survival mode to get through it and then when things settle down I start having a hard time. It seems to be that once things seem calm my mind can process what happened.

 

[Venusian]

It happens to me all the time. I run on adrenaline when a crisis hits and do what I have to do. It is when the crisis is past and I calm down that my mind has enough time to let go of the tension. That means letting all the things that are swirling around in the back of my mind. I think with PTSD that would be a lot of the memories, the flashbacks, the anxiety, etc.

I hope you are able to get through this quickly. Try some grounding techniques to calm down a little but like Maddog already stated, it is normal and healthy to feel like this and take to time to let it out after all the things that happened in such a short time.

 

[winterose]

Thanks 71 and Venusian. I'm going to take doggies out and feed them. See if the disruption will help some.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I do what I have to do in a crises and then afterwards the reaction hits me very hard and it takes me awhile to recover from it. I hate it. I think it is the way I survived as a child. I do well in crises. But is am a basket case after it is all over.

 

[NarcSis]

Yes, what everyone else just said - perfectly normal, annoying as all hell but just another "phase" to have to wade through.

I usually reassure myself when I start to feel the anxiety that it's okay, it's just a PTSD reaction.

 

[shoulderblades]

Can you go through a crisis being normal then bam everything hits at once?

Definitely. That's how it was for me. While I exhibited all kinds of trauma manifestations, I didn't realise it and I felt "fine" (which is to say that I felt normal for me because that's all I'd ever known, not knowing that what I was feeling WASN'T normal). Then, bam. Almost thirty years on, it's hit me like a sledgehammer. Everything has hit me like a sledgehammer, all at once.

 

[safenow]

I do well in crises. But is am a basket case after it is all over.

I am exactly the same way. It takes me a while to process what has happened. I'm still processing stuff that happened last year in October. And think I've finally made some headway with that.

 

[Cufflinks]

Definitely. That's how it was for me. While I exhibited all kinds of trauma manifestations, I didn't realise it and I felt "fine" (which is to say that I felt normal for me because that's all I'd ever known, not knowing that what I was feeling WASN'T normal)

I could have written that myself!! It takes me at least 24 hours to react to anything at the moment.

It took me 10 years to start showing signs of PTSD and 30 years for the roof to cave in. It's been like a snowball rolling down hill getting bigger and bigger. I also could never see a pattern in what was going on and just thought it was normal.

How wrong I was!

 

[Finding Shawna]

I do this also, more for my son's sake. I usually wait until he is with his dad to really let things sink in. Lately it's been hard and I see the affect it's having on him.

I hope your day gets better!