He Wants To Die

[Lovesdogs52010]

He wants to die. He says I'm the only reason he stays. What do I do? He's in therapy, has a psychiatrist, on meds. Do I let him go?

 

[NicG]

Hi, welcome to the forum :)

I take it your a carer/partner of a PTSD sufferer?
I think something you need to know is that no matter what he does with his life, it's not your fault and you can't blame yourself for any choices he makes. Just because we are suffering doesn't mean we aren't in control of our own decisions.

That said it sounds like this person isn't getting enough help. Is there some sort of suicide watch service where you live? In my country we can take someone to the emergency room or just call a local hospital and the person will be taken in and watched over. Generally people don't like you for doing that to them but, it's more important that they get the help they need. How long has he been in therapy/on meds for? Sometimes these things take a while and a fair bit of work to start having a positive effect.

I hope you find the love and understanding and support you need, here and in real life. A man put me in that position once a few years ago and it was extremely difficult to cope with. You need to look after yourself!

 

[Deleted member 24866]

I would get him help, and get him in a hospital ASAP. What you do after that is your choice.. but I have even called non PTSD people in for suicide threats. You can't just throw that around.. If and when I get so low.. I know its what I need.. unless I am so far gone. In the end he would appreciate it. You can call the police.. especially if you have texts, emails.. or something ya know.. he needs help.

 

[Barconian]

He is playing on your guilt (He says: your the only reason he wants to live). Don't let him pull you down or maybe walk away. You need to stay happy in yourself and if you lose that, it will be hard to get back!

 

[Lovesdogs52010]

I take it your a carer/partner of a PTSD sufferer?

I have PTSD, but I don't think he has PTSD. I really have no clue what to do. I hate this.

 

[Lovesdogs52010]

Thank you all for your input. Appreciated. Still lost. Need help. No answer is the right one that doesn't come from him.

 

[Lucycat]

Do I let him go?

What does this mean? What permission does he need from you?

 

[Lovesdogs52010]

What does this mean? What permission does he need from you?

He wants me to say go ahead

 

[Lucycat]

Then the others are right he is trying to make you responsible for his actions. Don't accept it. It sounds as if he should be having a discussion with his therapist or psychiatrist. If he wont do it then maybe you will have to. It is not fair that he is passing the buck...

 

[Deleted member 20280]

It sounds as if he should be having a discussion with his therapist or psychiatrist. If he wont do it then maybe you will have to. It is not fair that he is passing the buck...

Totally agree with all that @Lucycat has replied. And totally agree with all previous posts. I went around loosely blaming others for my actions and convincing myself for so many years that it was other people faults the way I was reacting. What I now know only too well is that I was in control of my actions. AS my own mantra goes "I know what this is. This is MY anxiety and I am in control of THEM and not THEY in control of ME". What I am saying is that he needs to realize that he makes his choices whether they be right or wrong and he needs to accept responsibility for them.

((hugs)) with a warm heart if you accept them from one sufferer to another.

Laurie