But What If I'm Wrong?

[iwannadeletethis]

What if I'm just triggering and wrong? What if I just don't know anymore about relationships? What if he really is trying and I miss out because I triggered and flew off? How do people see through this?

 

[Senecia]

I struggle with the same thing... I've been growing slightly distant lately because of misconceptions. It's like the old muck is clouding the present. I guess the biggest thing that helps, is simply communicating. I can't get through it any other way.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

I struggle with the same thing... I've been growing slightly distant lately because of misconceptions. I...

That makes sense, and can get hard at times, because I feel like we're hearing/speaking 2 different perspectives. Like I say something kind and he hears something offensive and he triggers. Or vice versa.

 

[Senecia]

:( I guess just be clear that you mean what you say. You really do think (kind things) and whatnot. That helps me at least. Does he open up about what he finds offensive? Try talking him through it

 

[iwannadeletethis]

:( I guess just be clear that you mean what you say. You really do think (kind things) and whatnot. That...

We try to. He doesn't open up about much. i guess he's in a high point of his life, and I'm in a very low point. We talked about this yesterday. How it can make a difference of how we understand each other.

I think kind things the best I can. It's been very hard to do since we had this entire month of fighting based on my unemployment and him not wanting to hear about my trauma. He said a lot of really terrible things just to get at me. Ever since, I really struggle with thinking he's just an asshole. So I do take partial blame for his lack of chivalry.