Isolation

[TinaG]

My boyfriend recently shut me out, what I've read is that's its called isolation? He said he needed time & because I care so much for him I will give him space although it hurts terribly!! My question is I'm new to this & this is a new relationship can someone tell me how long this last (I'm
sure every person is different) weather I would contact him at all or wait for him?

 

[Heather]

This is probably not what you want to hear but I wouldn't contact him. If he said he needed space, it's for a reason. He is struggling. I don't think anyone can give you a time frame.

I think when he is ready, he will reach out to you.

 

[TinaG]

This is probably not what you want to hear but I wouldn't contact him. If he said he needed space, it's...

Thank you Heather. I knew that I need to give him his time.

 

[Heather]

Just from what I know about men. When they are hurting they like to hole away.... Hopefully, he'll get some help and come out of it and back to you.

It's obvious how much you care for him. Just your understanding how much he needs his space, speaks volumes.

 

[TinaG]

I really care for him, he's been so good to me! We had a wonderful valentines day together and then he slowly started pulling away. I feel selfish because I ask why, he said he has had phases sense retiring home from Iraq. I'll never understand how he feels, I just hate he's pushing me away. I do hope he comes back to me. I only hope I didn't push him farther by asking questions. I will respect his request for space and just wait...

 

[Atomic]

If it makes you feel any better, I just caved. It's been 48 hours. I hate myself right now. :arghh;