Recent content by Everhopeful

Hi Ayesha I hope you are doing ok. Your disclosures about your struggle to come to terms with your German heritage have really resonated with me. I was just thinking, instead of being always pre-occupied about Germany's most recent horrible past history, why not immerse yourself in positive...

Reading your post, Radise, I was struck by not so much that you say you suffer from egocentrism, but that there is a tendency to generalise about people and paint them all over with the same brush. "They are all like this...or like that". Maybe it has been a self-protective thing for you? You...

There are truly genuine souls out there, who know what is valuable in a person. They do not go for the superficial things in life, they are looking for someone to connect with on a soul level.I don't mean to sound so esoteric, but what I guess I am trying to say that there are genuine people...

Miss_Understood, it sounds like you have had to bear a lot of prejudice against your sexual orientation. It is just my own belief that our Higher Power does not have any prejudice towards us like that. You love and that is all that counts. You can only fix yourself, you cannot fix anyone...

Welcome Silmarillion. You will get compassion and support here from others who have been exposed to similar trauma. You and your sister sound very close, having been through painful things together. It is a strength that can serve you both, that there is someone who bears witness on your life...

Please don't give up on yourself, dear Miss_Understood. I wish I knew the secret to self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, self-love. My husband will say things like you said in your above postings about himself. No human being should have to say such things about themselves. No one should have...

I find the same in my case Aj1. Maybe we get drawn to individuals in such pain, as we have some of our own emotional pain buried down way deep inside? This was definitely the case with me. It seems pre-destined now that I felt so strongly attracted to my husband. I identified with his great...

Dear Doublelife89 Wishing you healing and peace. I have no other words at the moment, I just feel so sad for your losses.

Beautiful! Well done, and good for you dear Bedbug. By the way, I just love that "funnyface cat" in your Avatar. Makes me smile every time I see it! :happy:

It is so affirming, so very, very wonderful to read about hard-won personal successes on this forum. :tup:

Dear Aj1, there are many times that I feel that I am on the brink of losing my husband, and that emotional pain cuts like a knife. I cannot imagine the sense of loss you must be feeling. I think in our case, supporters of such traumatised individuals, a break-up of a relationship and the...

Dear Saedhilian What a history of childhood trauma, abuse and neglect your postings tell us. You were raised in the most invalidating of environments. My husband had a similar start to life, in a completely dysfunctional family setting with multiple abuse and incest, pills being forced on him...

Dear Crow88, Arfie makes a good point about the whole "filtered thinking" thing: don't let this incident and others like it, be the only things that define you. You are so much more than that! The matter at hand is one of finding a way for you and your partner to deal with this aspect of...

Thanks reddevil1111, I get what you say and I appreciate the insight. Don't mean to hijack this thread (but seem to be doing so anyway, sorry sorry). Just want to say, my spouse is not a vet, ex-military or anything. Just a product of extreme childhood abuse and trauma, leading to a highly...

Thank you Nomedic1, your analysis of your own situation is a very interesting and enlightening one. It helps me understand a few things about my spouse's situation, too. But, I still ask myself: why does someone (seemingly of their own volition) gravitate to chaotic, violent, war-torn...