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Jurors and PTSD

I'm in my late forties, too, and this is exactly me! It is very hard to deal with the reality that I'm an underachiever. I was not prepared for life, and was constantly overwhelmed, still am unprepared, and still very easily overwhelmed. One of the things that I grieve over is the loss of...

It's not ridiculous at all. I'm sorry that you've been through this. Really. I don't think it's ridiculous at all that these things bother you, even more than the other things. I can relate. I was raped and ridiculed at the same time. Laughed at... I'm dying. He thinks it's funny, and is...

Yes. We all have the right to choose. Whether they be good decisions or bad decisions, we have the right to choose for ourselves. We also have a responsibility to choose what is best for others.

There are very good reasons to wait until marriage. I didn't say this without practical reasons. First, when you are physically affectionate, not even necessarily sexual, with a woman, her body releases a hormone, the same hormone that is released when women breast feed their babies. This...

If you really want to see her, vow no sex. I don't know her story, but if you're really interested in her just try being her friend and no touch, no sex until you marry her. What!! Am I crazy?!! You're playing games with her and yourself, trying to gain her trust without a commitment. You...

Thank you so much for all of your posts! I just realized that not being allowed to say no has been the source of a lot of bitterness. I've been aware that I have deep rooted bitterness, but never thought I would realize that it is connected to not being allowed to say no. I think it had caused...

A counsellor mentioned it tho me about 5 years ago. He was just a clinical counsellor, and didn't have the authority to diagnose. After some years I started to be able to see the symptoms myself, and I self diagnosed this year. I'm thinking about getting a proper diagnosis.

@Justmehere @Ronin @watundah @Friday Thank you! I'm so unsettled by this. I'm actually afraid of violence and blame and hatred. But very good to here your reasonable responses. I had a few moments of elation this morning when I realized that by saying no I was now free to say yes from the...

My really good friends asked if I could store 8 boxes of books at my house. I live in a small house, roughly 400 square feet. I don't have a basement or any storage other than closets. I said no, because I don't have room. I don't want to clutter my home. They have a house smaller than mine...

It is a tough thing to break out of those roles. At first I got really angry. Really really angry. And I hated everyone. Then being around them was so hard, because I would always get pulled back into the role. I had tho distance myself from them. I move to a different country fit a while. Then...

It took me a long time to realize that the non-relationships I have with family members are not just because of me. I have always been the black sheep of the family... The one who didn't finish school... The one who didn't have a career.... I'm the one who did drugs.... The one who has an eating...

Thank you @aut555. This really helps to keep things bright.

I have had the most wonderful month or two. I have had hardly any ptsd symptoms and I've noticed lasting changes, such as comfort being around certain people. I was able to take a day trip with a friend that I would normally have advoided. That would normally be way to much relating for me. If...

I have not been working for about 6 months now because I finally have the opportunity not to. The work I did before that was based on the same criteria you've listed... low stress, not a lot of noise, etc. The job I found that worked really well, and paid quite well too was to work in the...