Recent content by In Exile

I'm still in the stage of leaning how to not freak out when I try to articulate the impulses. I want to skip learning to live with that and go directly to articulating but it doesn't work out that way.

I'm having to learn how to let go of anger as well. I drive my scooter around in Taiwan and the drivers are insane here. I am learning to pause, and just tell myself to let it go.

I was almost quite debilitated some years ago, and then just went on autopilot to get through the things I needed to do, including work. I have gotten a better therapist now, who specializes in trauma and have made a lot of progress. I still have a very difficult time working. I am teaching...

I haven't read through the entire thread, but I read the first part and article linked: Link Removed It really expresses what I've worried about and what I feel is happening. This is going to have to come out in bits. This is how I deal with things these days. It's sort of a shock seeing this...

I day dream a lot. It helps me stabilize, but I wonder if it's too much. I fantasize that I can solve all these problems and such. I know it's a daydream, but I wonder if I'm doing this because of the feelings of needing to be perfect. By solving unsolvable problems, then it allows me to not...

I've got learned helplessness by the spades. It's tough to overcome. I wasn't able to make any traction despite years in CTBish therapy. Now I'm in Somatic Experiencing, and seeming to make more progress.

I am in constant need of external validation and seeking direct from others. It's pretty scary. At least I'm aware of it now and may be able to start working on it.

Yes, it can be really hard at times. I really can relate. I tell my therapist that I just don't know how I can keep going with it at times.

I escape a lot into daydreaming, without really thinking about what I'm running away from.

I lived in Japan for many, many years and fathers will bath with their kids until the kids don't want to. That typically is about 9 to 12 depending on the kids. I agree that it's the intent rather than the action.

It's tough. I didn't realize how bad things were in my family until I started having kids. I look at my two children, a girl, 6, and boy, 4. They are the ages where I have memories so I can compare. They get unconditional love. They are protected from the world. Their father doesn't beat them or...

That's tough. I grew up in a really abusive family as well.

Yes, we can relate. I'm going though a tough time right now as well. It's really easy to feel completely alone.

Thank you. I'm American, and my wife is Taiwanese. Fortunately, the liaison teacher is fluent in English, very Westernized and agrees with me that this type of abuse is not to be tolerated. It's good to keep in mind how to present it to the owner. I'm leaning toward making the suggestion that...

I saw a child get threatened with abuse today. I teach English here in Taiwan including teaching at a private kindergarten. When the children naturally get a little wild, the teachers punish them for it. It has bothered me from before, but last week I saw a teacher use a metal clip to hurt a...