Recent content by KathK

Thanks…was typo in last line (meant ‘everything’) I’ve lived with fluctuating levels of cptsd for nearly 20yrs, this time it’s more the medical side that’s coming up, there’s been incidents over the last couple of decades and incident 8mths ago set of the full blown trauma response. I had to do...

Covers a few areas. Flaring at present, not helpful by some of my clinicians trying to dictate/mandate certain treatments etc in an uninformed way despite claiming they’re being trauma informed. Spoke with psychologist today and part of what we’ve worked out is doing a graded exposure plan with...

Thank you. So good things I can step back and consider. Regarding weaning off the meds, enough times the previous psychiatrist left me discharged without follow up where I couldn’t wean off and had to go cold turkey with physical withdrawals; though given my physical health conditions that...

I’ve found a mix of things helpful and I do think that a certain amount of healing/recovery can take place without a therapist. Trauma therapists should know better than to pressure you into discussing your trauma and definitely should be focusing on skills rather than dismissing requests. At...

Hey. Struggling right now with not just the cptsd flare but the medical traumas recently that triggered the flare and the flashbacks of previous medical traumas and the unexpected letter from my narc father I have no contact with. I tried voicing to my clinicians that they were making the...

Hey all, Had a few triggers the last couple of weeks which have really thrown me, especially already being in a cptsd flare. By chance one of these was a letter from my narc father (if not full NPD like my primary doctor said then definitely strong narc traits). My mother is challenging but in...

Thank you. I’ve done a lot to try to ensure I parent differently to the styles of toxic parenting I received without going to extremes. Yes there’s techniques including fur therapy, sensory tools, etc I usually use when triggered, though with so many triggers right now they’re not very effective...

Hey…short version (I hope). I’ve been no contact with my biological father for years, took me wanting to protect my son from his narcissism to make the move but best thing I could’ve done with this ‘man’. So not for the first time he’s breached the no contact, though has been a few years since...

lol…preamble helped actually and gave me a chuckle as I like to organise things and categorise them, I can usually tell my son exactly where to find something of mine down to which cupboard, shelf, side of shelf etc 🤷‍♀️ I wasn’t sure what would come out in the writing, only a couple of things I...

Hi. Not sure where to put this. Short version, a medical trauma around new years set off a major flare of my cptsd, and has complicated matters with mptsd. This wasn’t first time I’ve experienced trauma at the hands of or in the care of clinicians, but seems it opened the floodgates and I have...

I can’t always step back especially with my mother, however sometimes when I know I’m going to see her and it’s possible (ok with her it’s probable) that I’ll get wound up or triggered I bring a couple of sensory things with me, including an essential oil I find calming which I put a blob of...

You asked is it normal, it’d say it’s not unusual. When I split off from a DV relationship I had to stay in the same town and basically went into hiding, however doing so I ended up doing ok for a few months with only visiting indoors with safe people, and shopping the other side of town to...

Supposition, I’d guess that we became so accustomed to certain things that that in combination with it being about us can cause a kind of blind spot at times, where hearing another say the same thing has enough separation that it can trigger a realisation of reality. I had certain things that I...

Whilst probably true that they were trying to get out of a restraining grasp, they doesn’t take away that you asked them to stop and they didn’t, and whilst of course alcohol interferes with inhibition of oneself, it’s also true that it’s triggered your trauma response (not an overreaction, it’s...

Hang in there and get support, not just from us but ideally any treatment team you have. I cut off from my father, and he had a disability too (different, traumatic brain injury before I was born) and I was conditioned including culturally to be extra nice etc because of his ‘challenges’, but he...