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What I meant with that wasn't so much about your outward reaction but rather that it's likely an emotional response caused by feeling triggered. Sounds like your family have been comfortable bullying you for years and your brain can't tell the difference because mockery is just another form of...

In my opinion people blaming you for stuff is different than accountability. Are you ever able to acknowledge when you've done something wrong? If you can't acknowledge this even to yourself, then the problem is that you aren't taking responsibility for your behavior. People aren't blaming you...

I'm dying what why who where. Donkee???? Babies 😭😭 I love them.

Also agreed. It's good information to understand the context within the gestalt. While personally I don't view it that acknowledging emotional or cognitive impairment is inherently removing their agency over their own behavior - I agree ultimately it really does not need to be that deep. People...

(Less relevant altogether: conversely, most of our data on schizoid, which is solely an affective impairment, is also obtained in forensic settings. A good example of someone I think is genuinely SZPD is Ed Kemper. There is no determined risk factor for being a serial killer due to the...

You see stuff like this most commonly in forensic settings. The guy I'm thinking of is clearly both autistic and killed someone due to curiosity. He got an insanity plea because he went right to the cops and admitted it in complete detail, has no remorse but also didn't gloat about it. A guy...

There is a lot of legwork being done by the word "empathy" in that sentence. Even if we take Baron-Cohen at face value, "theory of mind" is associated to cognitive, rather than affective empathy. Which, according to him, most autistic people actually have. And which the research supports in some...

I'm having a difficult time understanding your difficulty. Autism does not cause people to intentionally sexually abuse others. Putting a vibrator inside of a child is a purposefully malicious behavior. It's not within the realm of inappropriate behavior due to developmental disabilities. And...

If he loved you to begin with? He still loves you. PTSD is a stress disorder, and neurologically, stress is categorized really as any novel stimulus. We can have PTSD reactions from good stressors (sex, going to the movies, receiving gifts, promotions, etc) to traditionally bad ones (fights...

This is my main point. A lot of mentally ill people who don't manage their illness can be abusive and unhealthy. But scaremongering about how every single PTSD relationship is doomed to failure and abuse isn't a rational response to this. Especially under a title like "well, let's be honest...

Oh no it didn't tell me a real number 😅Haha sorry I was just making a dumb joke. I definitely couldn't answer those questions though.

I was shocked to discover my IQ is 6 💩

Your thread urging every supporter to "get out, because they're being abused," you mean? What behavior? Abuse? No. PTSD on its own isn't inherently abusive, though. The implication being that people with PTSD cannot participate in equal relationships, which is simply not accurate. Is it...

PTSD is incurable, yes. But no person is unendingly static. Even PTSD itself is not static, and often goes into cycles of remission. PTSD is not a guarantee of abusive behaviors. Just because you were abused, doesn't mean every supporter on here is a victim of abuse. There is no reason to make...

If everyone is similar, then it's cultural. Up to you how to react. Personally if a therapist didn't respond to me after a week or so I'd assume they have no interest in taking me on as a client and disregard. You mentioned wanting a trail, so your next best option is to start making phone...

I internalized an identity as both a protector and a perpetrator simultaneously very early on. I coped by drawing upon myself as something of a beneficent monster. It's not a coincidence that I named that part James; James is a character in Silent Hill who develops an ego construct called...

In 1998 a number of big tobacco companies were forced to reveal all the shit they did to cigarettes to make them even more addictive. Breeding nicotine plants with multiple times the amounts of nicotine, adding ammonia and bronchodilators so that your lungs would open more to retain more...

Times were different when I smoked. It's still complicated. Nicotine is a serious addiction and the cessation stuff you use, no matter what they are, none of them are as good or as effective as smoking a cigarette. It's a multi-faceted addiction with a behavioral as well as chemical component...

My dad was my legal guardian from about 19-22, had complete control of my finances, medical proxy, etc. I don't have much information about the technicalities because the purpose of me needing this is that I was basically catatonic. I couldn't talk properly or engage in adult activities like...

I recently read an article that talked about how bees have fun! They roll around little balls for no reason, and the scientist realized they're doing it for fun! That made me feel less afraid of bees. They're just fuzzy little sillies.

Absolutely, 100%! And everything you talked about is hand-in-hand with typical experiences of cult membership and indoctrination. Experiences like yours are extremely valuable input here. Even though your group was not violent, there is a reason I listed religious groups right beside violent...

Ants are the only other animal we know about that perform life-saving surgeries and have public health systems! When an ant's femur is injured, another ant will amputate it. If the ant's tibia is injured, the other ants will clean it using their tongue which has some antimicrobial properties...

It's regrettable that much of the messaging around SI insists that if you just reach out and talk with someone, they'll magically fix things or care about you - because usually they just fumble awkwardly and don't really know what to do. Many people struggle with SI because of problems that...

Sadly, even if you did recall everything, you still wouldn't understand it. Trauma, particularly interpersonal violence, is chaotic by nature. Wanton destruction is a process of entropy, which is not something our brains are built to process. I too held a belief that if I could just master and...

The big difference though is that despite the fact that ERP grounds you in reality in a way that is ultimately reasonable, it's not the same thing as using logic and arguments to reason yourself out of OCD thoughts. It is deliberately choosing to acknowledge that you will never know the answer...