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So glad to hear you were able to return to work in a better place than you have been and really hope that the funeral was a good time to celebrate his life and that peace could be found for all involved. I am also glad to hear you are going to work on your own self value, and really do believe...

I am glad that it had helped to be able to share on here and hope you will be able to continue to do so. I know you have said that you have a real problem with therapy, and do not know what your experience is, but there are many good therapists and I know for myself that without the therapy I...

Been thinking of you this morning and am sorry you are not being given answers to your questions, which must make it all so much harder. I am glad that most of the nurses are great and really hope that you can be heard and understood by all who are caring for you, including the one who does not...

So sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. I am glad you were able to talk about what was happening with you and really hope you can have further understanding from the staff and people caring for you and really know that in their hands you are now safe and they will be doing the best...

I am sorry to hear you have had such a hard day. It sounds as if inside you are just hurting so much and that you need so much to be heard and understood. That in fact is normal, and as you find for yourself safe places where you really can release so much of what needs to come out, there will...

I am really glad to hear you are going to email her. I have looked back at some of your previous posts and am not surprised that there are so many mixed emotions about becoming too attached to her. I really hope you are also able to talk through some of this with her. It is not wrong to need her...

I am sorry to hear that you are battling this so much on your own. I know it doesn't feel like it, but having people to help you is not failing and being weak. Seeing your therapist as you are facing things which are coming up and dealing with and expressing all the emotions, is actually a way...

Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. You have been through so much seeing your abuser and being strong is not about not finding things so hard. I know it does not feel like it, but I really believe there is a way through and just being on here as asking for help is being strong. I...

I am sorry to hear that you are finding things so hard. I also had a time as a teenager where I was in a relationship with another girl and in so many ways felt so much safer. I am fortunate that I have been able to be totally honest with my husband and though it is very hard I do know he is...

I have also been thinking about that verse a lot this week, and do believe that it is true when God says He will take all things and use them for good but do not necessarily think this is what that verse is saying. I think that out of the bad, good things do come, but I think this verse is...

That is such a beautiful picture you describe of being able to hold the child within, who in that place is so desprate for someone to come and and save them and make it all safe. I know you are a Christian from what you have already said, and know so well for myself that also that child in me...

It is so good to hear you had such a good session and were able to discuss the whole issue of touch with your theraist. I know that feeling safe is such an important thing when working through everything, and am sure this reassurance will have helped considerably with that, and that these...

Welcome to the forum. As with many others I have struggled a lot with memories of things which have been coming up over the years, and my advise to you would be to trust yourself. I know if I am really honest that deep down I have always known the reality, but know that this is also something...

Well done. What you said out loud is so true and so good to be able to share. Hope you are able to find a real peace after it as you are releasing yourself further and further into your healing. Helen

Thank you so much. Helen

It is no surprise you have a hard time trusting, and from what I have read you have had a hard week with seeing your dad and finding the strength to deal with all of it, and have done so well. Trust will take time to build up and I can relate so well to feeling awkward, but true friends really...

Thank you both so much for your replies. I am still in a very hard place but not in quite the same self destruct as I was this morning. Sometimes it just feels so hard and I feel so scared and I just want so much for it all to go away. I know I have to keep myself safe for my amazing little...

I am sorry to hear you are having such a hard time at the moment. I cannot answer on whether it is too complex and too much for you, as I feel that is something only you can decide for yourself, but I would suggest that if the emotions are coming up, in or out of therapy, that being able to get...

Sorry to hear you are having such a hard day. It sounds crazy in some ways to wish you a happy birthday when you obviously feel far from happy, but I am wishing you peace and blessings for the rest of your day and a real strength and determination that you really can get through this and that...

I am really sorry to be writing on here and being so crap, but am in such a hard place this morning and just hating myself and 'little Helen' so much. I don't want to write loads, but just feel in such a downward spiral again and feel like it is so hard to get out of. Sorry for being pretty...

I have just read your post and am amazed at how courageous you are. I have often considered confronting my step father, but as of yet have never been able to do it and still have so many fears, and knowing how much must really have been at stake for you really do admire your courage and am so...

I only just read your post too and am sorry to hear that you have had such a hard time. I know for myself that when I feel I have made some progress and then that it has all fallen apart again, I find it very hard and find it hard to get out of again, but have learnt more and more that just...

Helen you are a diamond in the making. Thank you for your encouragement Helen

I just read candleflames thread too as it was posted while i was writing mine and also know that for myself standing up for others is something which I have brought out of my experiences. I have also contacted children's services about child protection issues and never had an issue about leaving...

I also agree so much with so much on this thread and do know that even though so often I still struggle a lot with self hatred, that there are many good qualities which I have, which my experience has helped me with. I also know that for me my experience and journey towards healing has really...