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I know it's hard not to feel rejected but like @TonyG said it's hard to know what to say so you have to give him time to formulate a reply. Maybe send him another text asking if he has any advice or anything to say about what you said. Try to take a deep breath and give your friend the benefit...

I love what Bubzilla said about finding yourself, it is totally possible! Like I said I was raised by a narc mother and then at the age of 20 married a psychopath. After seven years of marriage I was lucky to get out of that alive and had no where to go but back to my mother. Finally I was able...

My complex PTSD is in part related to my Narcissistic mother and the fact that I am the black sheep who can do nothing right in her eyes. That foundation has led to more and more complications that have just made my PTSD 'complex' including marrying a psychopath who tried to kill me... please...

Porn is closely tied into my PTSD too and I told my guy it was a deal breaker. I have a hand full of deal breakers, some are tied into my PTSD and some are just personal preferences but they are just that deal breakers. I find my guy looking at porn and he knows I'm gone, I find him cheating...

WOW! Substitute Father for Mother and we have almost the exact same story :( I'm so sorry, I know it sucks so much!! My mother is always telling me I need to "get over it", best thing I ever did was move out and limit my contact with her to phone calls and once a year visits (Christmas time) She...

First off I'm a 'sufferer' and I have three children under the age of 10 who are not my SO's but whom I have full time with no support from my abusive ex husband. I see my SO as my safe place, in his arms the world goes away and I know I am safe. I think my role in the relationship is to be his...

A present from someone who put some thought into who I am and what I might want and like because they actually care about me.

YES! YES! YES! @scout86 exactly! I couldn't have said it better! Peace and trust is pure gold and to be able to be completely yourself with someone who as been through the stuff we have been through is very rare. It seems strange and unfamiliar but it is exactly what we need.

A little about me first: I had an abusive childhood and then married a man who was horribly abusive, we were together for 6yrs when he was arrested after trying to kill me, I have complex PTSD and after 2 1/2 years out I'm finally starting so see something that looks a lot like stability which...

I agree with @FridayJones, I have had military training and worry about 'over using' when triggered but what you did was self-defense and no more. What he is doing is abusive and you are protecting yourself and nothing more. I'll give you an example of a time when I went way above and beyond...

I too have a toxic relationship with my mother and even though she promised my three young children that she was going to see them at Christmas it looks like I am going to have to break there hearts. You see last week my mother spent $350 dollars on a new puppy and then this morning she called...

I'm sorry. From the point of view of the person who has PTSD I can say that I get why he may have done it. My partner has told me a few times that it makes him uneasy how easily I can turn cold. If it helps I don't think he wanted to 'erase your memory' he probably got it into his head that you...

I can fully sympathize the last time I saw my family (mother, father, and sisters) was Christmas and I ended up in the bathroom having a full blown anxiety attack, popping Xanax like tic tacs and texting my T. I hate Christmas because it is the only time of year where I am 'forced' to be in the...

First I want to say I am so, so, so very sorry that this happened to you. Second I would like to say that I am filled with rage at the men who did this too you. And Third I want to say that this is not in anyway your fault. So you had a few too many drinks, does that mean you deserve this? Hell...

I have been there. My T told me that when I start having a recurring dream like that I need to write a different ending to the dream on a piece of paper as soon as I wake up from the dream. Something empowering where you are your own hero. It has always worked to stop my recurring dreams. I keep...

@BlueOrange brilliantly stated! @Fadeaway take a pillow, put it up to your mouth, scream and cuss into it as loud as you can until you can't anymore. That usually helps me... oh and then punch the pillow several times and throw it against a wall.

I have the same question. I have quite a few OCD habits that are stress related but its definitively a chicken/egg thing I have no clue which came first and maybe there is no way to tell. My 5 yr old son has OCD also but because he was pretty severally abused from birth to age 3 1/2 by my ex I...

Maybe you both can stop watching news and start reading it together.

Honestly I stay calm by not watching the news. I have friends who watch the news and they give me up dates on things from time to time but I just stay away from it all together. I especially can't watch war news, school shooting news, or murder/ suicide news. I have found though that I can read...

A counselor or therapist could help. A support group for caretakers would also help. You should be able to find one in your aria or like others have said you can post here. I agree with Solara everyone needs more then one person to lean on, your spouse couldn't do it all even if she didn't have...

If you are concerned for his safety or yours you can get counseling through the military without it being a 'blemish' on his record. You can either go to medical and ask your primary care to help or you can go to Army community center (I'm assuming he is army each branch has the same resources...

@Ghostybear73 That is actually very helpful. It validates that what I am feeling is the PTSD. I think you are right, I have never been in a healthy relationship before so this is a feeling I haven't received before. The PTSD mind tells me that he does deserve better and that I don't deserve...

Ok so I have been seeing this guy for a few months now, he is wonderful. He understands PTSD even though he doesn't have it and he is very understanding. He has seen full melt downs and refuses to let me brake up with him when I am triggered even though I have tried more then once. He always...

My best friend has PTSD too and so does her husband. We knew each other before we were both diagnosed (back in college) but lost touch after college. Two years ago when I left my abusive husband we re-connected and I moved close to her. She and her husband are a huge part of my support network...

My thoughts and prayers are with you.