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Eedara there is a site by Dr George Simon for people who have been in relationships with various paths, it's brilliant and so is he. It's called dealing with manipulative people, I've read alot of material in my life and been married to and had children with two psychopaths and a sociopath and I...

Hi runningtomusic, good to meet you. When I dissociate it can be a few different things that I'm aware of so far. I can get the overwhelming urge to curl up and get under a blanket. I feel really cold and need warmth. I just feel fragile, no defenses and shake. At different times I'm more blank...

Thankyou Solara, that also put things into a better perspective for me, you have a great handle on acceptance, which is my immediate challenge. The new normal, I like that. Cure, not necessary too. Thankyou again. :-) Thankyou Marylouise, I just read the link to your story and it was uplifting...

If your relationship with him is strong it is ok to get angry and hurt with him about this if it is how it makes you feel. You will eventually process your anger and rage and he is the safe person to do it with. You don't always have to be the one keeping the peace any more with him.

I just read your diary, the whole lot so far and left you a message there. It would be extremely hard for a man to get that level of connection and to cope with believing. He does need to comfort you and he should. He's finding it hard to believe maybe or it's beginning to traumatize him too...

Joeylittle, my thoughts on this are that when we hold a thing inside like that, we give it a special place where it is safe. No one will ever truly know us completely whilst we keep it in that safe place, including our therapist. The shame and fear is just too great a risk to let it out and face...

That's a great ending and so inspiring. You had the courage to face the mountain with broken legs and you walked up it one step at a time. I'm giving you the rainbow cross for valour and courage. Standing Ovation. xx

Thankyou, that's what I was thinking, it would have to have some trust groundwork first, then just riding the waves of intensity as you are able to cope with them. The whole one hour thing does my head in, I feel like I need to go to a residential retreat where I can safely regress for the right...

Oh Sunset, you are so so so not alone. I call it the Cystem, Are you a person with a good imagination? Dissociation is an evolutionary advantage, not just a mental illness. If you really want their meds and you know you need them, then my only suggestion is for you to play a game in your head...

Hi StillSad, I was sexually assaulted by a doctor in my early twenties who was never made accountable for his actions. It's a very difficult thing to deal with because people find it extremely hard to believe. Then there is the problem of having to go to the doctor or dentist and how that is an...

i I would like to hear your story if you want to tell me some of it. My eyes and ears never gloss over. You are important, the world needs you and so do all the people who will go through what you have in the future and who will benefit from your story.

Thank you so much for sharing that part of your story NovemberStar, I am really intellectual too and that's a real source of fear of loss for me as I've got a great V8 motor inside my head capable of so much too. Hearing what you have just related also validates my own experiences. I did half...

That's a huge blow to take in a short time, I can really feel your isolation. I hope you can find a way to redefine your place in the world without feeling so alone. One day at a time.

Dr George Simon is the author of two books In Sheeps Clothing and Character Disturbance. He has a website called manipulative people, find him please, that is the best advice I can give you, as well as encouragement that you deserve better and that your life will be hell if you stay with this...

Thanks for sharing that, it seems that EMDR is a really valid treatment that works for people. I might give it a go myself. How long did it take you to build the rapport with your therapist in order to be able to start doing the actual therapy?

Hi, nice to meet you JEK, my first thought when I read your first paragraph was that just being at the kids birthday party would have caused you to feel/connect with something. The party itself if a very symbolic trigger for all sorts of things, it would have to be. Maybe you could explore what...

Hun, it sounds to me that you have been suffering at the hands of a narcissist, covert manipulator or something much worse perhaps.

I forgot to mention that I read the link that you posted, it makes a lot of sense and definitely struck a few chords with me and I imagine it would with a lot of people. It's a hard one that one ie seeing the suffering as a blessing, I used to say that until I realized that I'm trapped in a...

Hi TeddydaBear62, I'm sorry to hear you have no family support, neither do I, how amazing are human beings though! I. I had to divorce myself from my family of origin, it was just too hard and my life is better for it. The article was on the article page and its called Cureable vs Treatable. It...

The list goes on Dana1010, like why isn't it a spectrum disorder called ASARS. Altered Stress Adaptation Response Syndrome, because we just keep making up names for behaviours according to the current values and insight of our times and the culture. How long did it take for Shell Shock to even...

I believe that in time we will come to understand the workings of our nervous system, much more than we do now. According to the powers that be, you have to have your life threatened to be labelled with this PTSD trophy. We have a medical establishment that changes it's paradigms every few years...

Excellent, you explained what you needed and your Mum got it. I hope you take some credit for that too because you should. Alot of my pts has been caused by abusive men, I get it darl I really do, especially where children are involved, multiply that by a factor of alot. I hope your planned...

Hi KwanYingirl, I'm glad to meet you too! Me too, all of the above, except I had really early stuff as well. It IS a miracle we are here at all, I think that often. I am a living breathing example of life's mystery and resilience from the day I was conceived to today. I call my ego fights...

I feel for you munkinmama, is there any way that your people can talk to his people type of thing and you can step out of the negotiations altogether for your own good.

Hi Meadowsweet, I have the same experience of suicidal ideation being the 'flight'. More of a flight to fantasy as an escape. What I wondered was, does our subconscious mind actually percieve this as a death threat, even though on a conscious level it is just a momentary escape into the...