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BrownEyes, I wanted to share that I had read your post. My two daughters are 11 and 9. They haven't been sexually abused or physically abused. There's been some marital disruptions that unfortunately happened where they could see it. I feel bad about that. There is every effort to make...

Hopeful, I think my moment of clarity happened when I was sitting at the Battered Woman's shelter in a class. They were reviewing the batterer's archetype. I had no idea that batterers had a typical anything. WHen I saw the list and knew conclusively that he matched all of these traits, then...

She Cat, I can see the common sense in what you say. It's obvious. Can you help me understand something? What do you do as a carer to someone who won't get an official diagnosis? Is that a deal-breaker in your perspective?

Hello! What great responses! What pressure! That's the cool thing about being myself. There's only one me. Not that I'll add something particularly valuable. I just wanted to sneak in here and give you a *hug* ! It's good that you are becoming used to signing here and having someone enjoy and...

Thanks TIja! I am blessed to have them too! I might point out that normal tweener angst is a lot to start with. They have made some measurements in my marriage and I'm sure they are taking notes. You are very welcome, by the way! I do and did mean it. The truth is that you should get some...

TLight, My favorite phrase is "This is JUST not working for me." The assumption is that it SHOULD be working for you. I like the distinction.. helpful and not helpful as opposed to right and wrong. I get less emotional feedback because most people want to be helpful. We know about...

JStanley, Thanks for coming back to the discussion - as you can see - it helps! We.. I . do believe you in you :) And this kind of betrayal is a tremendous pounds per square inch burden. Parenting under pressure is rarely pretty. For the sake of the love of our children, we do it. I can...

Hello PTSDwife, I would like to commend you for your vulnerability, your strength and your endurance. WOW! I read your post and was completely enchanted with how maturely you've approached your marriage. I believe that the love is like gold. It remains itself even if the recepient...

HI Tija! I don't teach professionally. I have two daughters ages 11 and 9. For example, some people tickle too much and don't stop when asked. My children know that they have the right to say how they are touched. I like what you wrote, TIja! Great boundaries because you do have the...

Nicolette, I've had 'family' drummed into my head for years. Now, I have a minor, very minor version of this story but I think since it's me and not you then you'll see what point I'm making by mentioning my situation. My uncle on my mother's side married a very dysfunctional woman. I...

Michel, I read your post. I think it's important in an online environment to let the author know when something has moved the reader. You did do something important here. You have come here and wrote down how you feel. I heard you. I'm sitting here in Los Angeles, thinking how awful this...

Heya Cornflake, I'm thinking that maybe there might be a cool story behind your handle. Welcome to the forum! I'm sorry that so much suffering happened - healing is very possible although I can testify that it's not easy. Okay, for me means doing the work.. going for the grand quest to be more...

HI Rachica, Welcome to the forum! It's not so much where you start --there is a path from where you are to where you want to be. You might call it faith because you can't see it right now. It's real. Hang in there. This past week has been 'science project' week.. but I'll be back to...

Congratulations :) Take lots of pictures! I thought I'd remember better than I have. (My daughters are 11 and 9, respectively). Take a deep whiff of that new baby smell too! They smell so good!

Heya 2Quilt, My mother in law had it done.. and I can't speak for her. If you want to send me some specific questions to ask her, she has the advantage of being a Registered Nurse as well as a Case Manager for an insurance company. SHe honestly knows more than some doctors. Are you just...

Some measure of peace is playing the music that you were meant to play instead of running around the orchestra, picking up all the instruments that others have set down.

QL, I do have one more thought that might help. Whenever things are hard for me, I go out. OUtside I am my own person. Outside, I own my own space. Even if it's in a park sitting down under a tree, I learned that I can pack in drinks and a good book. Access to a bathroom and a cell phone...

Hello Amethist, I made the dogs to paint. The brown paper is grocery paper torn off and glued onto the paper mache. The form is wadded newspaper, held in proper dimensions with painter's masking tape. You can make almost any form from the scrunched up newspapers and the masking tape will...

Thank you! It's 3-4 weeks of my life. It helped me be closer to my oldest daughter. We've been buttin' heads a bit. THis healed our relationship a lot!

I know it's a small goal in some ways: to have a good day for a birthday party. We had a great day! I've attached a picture. It had a dog theme and everyone had a really good time painting their paper mache dog. I am grateful to God for the perfect weather. My parents flew in from Chicago...

I too, am very sorry to hear this. And I may sound like an echo because I hope that you will stay here and continue to post as well for several reasons.. some of which may resemble your situation. * You have been injured secondarily because of Scott's PSTD and you deserve understanding...

Boundaries are a great surprise to many people--many 'normal' people as well I might add. I love the fact that you have included a link for more information. I wanted to add that if someone is in a relationship that has a power / control dynamic that boundaries are a call to arms. The...

I wanted to welcome you to the forum! I'm not a cop or a marine. I'm new here too. I really think this is an excellent forum and I do think you'll have some insight from posting here!

Hello Jstanley, I did your posts and I have gone back and forth. Part of the the thing struck me about reading the posts was the in and out process that has been documented here. It put some edges to my experiences. I too have a strong support system. I could not have done what I've had...

Heyyy Godseeker, I'm glad that you found something useful. I certainly did from everyone's responses. COOL topic. Thanks for posting it. Now, I hope to have a better response the next time someone tries to mess with my head with staring! GO ME!