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Was it condescending when your parents said you weren't mature enough to handle it? When I read that, I saw it as a negative, yet the rest of your post, and the fact that your avatar is you and (I'm assuming) they, makes me think otherwise. Exactly what did they mean by that? (I have looked up...

Hi, Leanne. I'm sorry for what you went through. My backstory is not similar so I have no advice about the healing, etc. I just wanted to say that a private investigator is one option into finding out who did that to you. But as you aren't in a great place financially at the moment, I suppose it...

Whether men are more immature or not, there's the aggression factor. Even if they aren't necessarily less mature as a whole, their immaturity is much more dangerous.

That sounds like a direct betrayal. She has the right to go after him, but it's a rotten thing to do to a friend. I also didn't like hearing about the friend who invalidates the PTSD. I don't have any advice about how to let them back in. I probably wouldn't want them, but at the same time, it's...

If you haven't had your hormone levels checked lately, it's not a bad idea. PTSD is bad enough. Add hormone imbalance to it, and all the therapy and self-help will only do so much.

This is so true. He SO wasn't triggered. Just look at what you told us, Orion: (1) He was cheating on his wife (2) He wanted sex with a 16 year old - a 16 year old who he saw as "weak", as you say yourself Orion (3) He wanted three-way sex (4) He was manipulating a 21 year old to help him (5)...

Gaping holes in your narrative. Why was a 25 year old male alone with you? We need some backstory to really make any sense of this. Actually being triggered to the point where one is in "a state of amnesia', having no control over one's actions is extremely rare, so I'm calling bullshit on him...

We don't hold ourselves in very high esteem, so we feel like we're silly to "make a big deal about it" and that we should "get over it" when it happens. Although we often feel like perpetual victims, we never seem to have much sympathy for ourselves. (I'm generalizing; we're not all the same...

I am similar. I'll use my experiences on this forum to illustrate: though I'm eager to see if my posts get any "likes", if and when they do, I feel a weird mix of emotions that leaves me very uncomfortable, almost feeling like I've done something wrong.

I fight with my wife constantly but can't seem to ever figure out who's to blame. Sometimes I see her as innocent and naive, and I see myself as a bully. Other times I see her as a selfish manipulator who has damaged me as bad as anyone from my childhood. And I often go back in my mind to high...

Did her therapist tell her the reasons for Brianna's recanting, like she told you? Maybe not all of them, but ones that she could understand at her age? I know how you feel. Brianna's change of tune can really be (unintentionally) messing with your daughter's mind. I hate when kids learn to...

Though one can feel that way regardless of the doctor's gender, does your gyno happen to be male? I would think that choosing a female (if you are able to choose) would lessen the likelihood and intensity of feeling violated.

There are days I'll remember something and I'm filled with hate. Then the next day I won't even care anymore. Then it'll come back again at a later time. Happens to me all the time. There are dozens of people, who randomly pop into my mind, who fill me with anger. Then the feeling goes away...

If she's a good T, then it'll help that she sees that side of you. It gives her more to go on.

All of your interpersonal relationships are probably warped (mine are), so it was only a matter of time that you showed cracks when dealing with your T. It sounds like you overfocused on her and your relationship with her. You probably saw her as one of the few good things in your life, and then...

The worse the trauma, the more likely you'd suppress it. The "super bad" stuff is the most likely to be forgotten.

I think we're forgetting that the therapist was actually right in this case. There was more. I'm all for them challenging us. If they're wrong, or if it seems like they're making light of the already-recognized trauma by searching for more, I can see how that can be troubling. But maybe some of...

Sounds like a breakthrough! I hope you choose to tackle the memories head on. You can do it!

Trust your gut, Lou. I would be shocked if your father didn't abuse you. It was most likely sexual but not necessarily. It could've been physical and/or emotional, and your young, supple mind could have sexualized it as a way to find safety and comfort in it. The mind (especially the young mind)...

I know that people take propranolol for anxiety, but has anyone else read about Dr. Merel Kindt and the work she's done using propranolol to rid people of their fears? I'm posting a link below. It sounds very promising, but I have not seen any mention on how and where someone can find such...

A lot of them don't care about the patient. They treat the patient like a child and then blame the patient for feeling frustrated, as if the frustration is automatically a symptom of the illness rather than a justified annoyance at someone who's dillydallying and not helping.

I think you are seriously inhibited. I say this because I suffer in a similar way. It's almost as if I numb myself, and it can fool anyone, including myself, into thinking I'm not affected by the situation. It's a form of detachment. It's like this. If something scary happens, most people have...

Have you ever had any therapy at all? It's amazing that you've been existing like you have without reaching out for help. What some others here have said is so true. You need help period. That's step one. Then as you progress you can try to get to the bottom of why you feel the way you feel. I...

Whether or not he was an "abuser" does not seem important in a case like yours. But whether or not these things should have affected you in a great fashion? Hell yeah. You were doing something rather out of the ordinary at such a young age, through no wish of your own, and you had moments of...

I didn't think you sounded rude at all. I just wanted to assure you that what you said made sense to me. It was nice talking to you :)