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To the original poster, that is where my sufferer stands in her experience. Knowing that the one who destroyed her life is out there. Knowing where he is now. Knowing that his life went on unscathed and hers did not. No one who has not experienced what we have will ever understand what that is...

I can't even think about him much yet. And I will spare you further comments on that. The time surrounding a sudden death and the traumatic choices and dreadful places you have to be and things you must deal with...... I have a couple visuals I cannot ever shake. My sufferer says that we...

Thank you. I don't even like to hear that word anymore: justice. There isn't any punishment of earth or eternity that could ever give me what I really want. The clock turned back and my boy back. To wake up and this nightmare never happened. And you cannot talk about it with anyone really...

You are not alone. My stepson was murdered in January at age 21. And one of the suspects in his case is an underage girl with a toddler. She gloated and ran her mouth a lot, said my stepson got what he deserved. His girlfriend was 3 months pregnant at the time of his death. People say we are not...

Love the comment on the voodoo doll!!:sour::tup:

I know how you feel, LostOne83. It is so frustrating and hurtful when they shut you out totally. Hard to understand why simple yes/no, just factual stuff, or just being part of what is going on with him/her at all is so hard when they can do it with others, just not YOU.

I know how you feel, LostOne83. It is so frustrating and hurtful when they shut you out totally. Hard to understand why simple yes/no, just factual stuff, or just being part of what is going on with him/her at all is so hard when they can do it with others, just not YOU.

No, you are not awful. The pushing and pulling is incredibly hard on someone emotionally. Don't look at it like weakness or failure. Many people are not strong enough to even try. Apologies for the double post, it wouldn't go through, then doubleposted. And now the edit won't work to let me...

Some of my friends/coworkers in particular are bad for that too!! And their problem is shift work mixed with school/spouse/children underfoot and acting out!! They are tired, busy, distracted, and preoccupied. Their communication is on the fly in the middle of whatever else they are doing, so...

Duff, I really don't think there is any such animal, anyone who is supportive or understanding of you if you even attempt to keep an open space in your heart for someone who willfully deserted you. And where I stand right now seems to be in the final stage of grief. For all intents and purposes...

Thank you Duff for being honest. I have a friend with PTSD who has cut me off for just over 11 months now. And even the responses on here have been nearly universally that I should write her off and give up any hope. I probably would if I could but I just don't know how.

That is how I feel about my tiny dog. When nobody else was there, his love and enthusiasm never fails. Bad breath, crappy attitude, behaving like a frozen slug, he don't care, he just snuggles up.

Also, I do not know what denomination or type of church you attend, I am just assuming Christian. And probably Protestant because of the terminology used. But in some subtypes of Christian churches, therapy and psychology/psychiatry are met with disdain or even sometimes outright disapproval...

It is not easy to be a support no matter how well you try to be informed.

I cannot say exactly what I would like, don't want to put my business out there. But I had a bad experience as a child and the worst damage was not what happened to me but how the significant adults in my life handled it. I understand them and feel like they did the best they knew (and could...

My sufferer voluntarily filled me in on her trauma. But then had issues when I had trouble processing it all and wanted to talk and ask questions. So not fair to share and then not stick around, push them away. If you don't want someone in your life to stay, why put all that stuff in their heart...

Don't know the whole story, just skimming through in the wee hours. But vision problems are a sign of diabetes.

I agree with Echo. This is where I stand with my sufferer, a state of confusion. Goodbye or not? Make it clearcut and known to him what you have chosen and then stick with it. I would much rather have a clearcut goodbye so I could have definite closure, grieve, and be able to close the door on it.

For me it casts my sufferer's behaviors in a whole different light. If she has ptsd, her behaviors all make perfect sense. If she does not, then they are either just incomprehensible or inexcusable. If I know her trauma history and that she has ptsd I know why she reacts the way she does in...

The others are correct, this is far more than an issue of ptsd. Don't let this make you feel to blame. You are not. I do not have ptsd, but I do work in retail. I have dealt with several managers over the years who are incompetent and lack people skills. You do not have to tolerate disrespectful...

Half-pint would be because of my long hair and skirts. One of the 80 something year old ladies at my old job said I wasn't even a half pint, I was a shot glass. LOL

Nope, my username is because I am 4ft 9in and lots of people call me that. Along with Stretch, Shaq, Shorty, LilMama, Tinkerbell, ShortS**t, Tiny, IttyBitty, TooTall, Little One, Little Girl,.......

A somewhat sad supporter here sending you hugs if accepted. Understand about the dog, my tiny little mutt has been my saving grace in suicidal moments, love him too much to leave him. Scared myself once in an alltime low place when I thought about taking him with me. He has loved me when I felt...

I truly believe that for many sufferers (you can never say all of anything or anyone) being nonconfrontational is just part of the disorder. I have 2 people in my life with PTSD, different ages, and from very different traumas, and they are both infuriatingly nonconfrontational. Or what they...

I wonder if I will ever ever get over the damage being rejected by my sufferer has done to my heart and mind.