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What a great reply! I did not think to ask about the ratios. I will. My observation is that they are low, with an assistant teacher always in the bigger classes. I'm glad you said that about the star rating. They do have a 4/5 star rating in our state, but to be honest I wasn't sure if that was...

Wow. Again, you could easily be talking about my sister. That's just so weird how similar people's stories can be online. Yeah I would still say to remember that your kids are most important in all of this, and any adult problems only matter as they affect the kids. That's an easy way to stay...

I had to research intelligence as part of my master's thesis. You can only measure intelligence if you have a group of very similar people. So let's say me, my sister, and three of my four brothers. One of my brothers is autistic, which makes him (neurologically) a different "type" of person...

I'm going to post about this here because I think it's hypervigilance. My son is three and is starting at a new preschool next week. I stay home with him because of a physical disability and frankly also PTSD. So he's only going because he wants to, not because we need him to. It's just two...

My husband and I left a preschool orientation last night very amped up. I'll make a post about that in a minute. We discussed afterward what we were each doing to calm down. He was control breathing. I was being mindful of the trees. We also drove around for about an hour before we went home.

I had some thoughts about this that are partially from personal experience, but also partially from something I used to research that kind of relates. I hope you don't mind me sharing- I thought it might help. From personal experience: I am a person who looks different from other people. I'm...

Makes me wonder if your mom is somehow also my mom. She's always said weird things like that. People have offhand said behind her back that she is (or "was") brilliant and "could have been anything" if she wasn't the way she is, which is not human on the inside. Thank god she wasn't anything...

Hm. I just looked back through your posts. One of your kids is a four year old girl...how many others do you have and what are the ages? What is your custody arrangement? As in, how much time do you spend with the kids and how much time does she spend with the kids? Are you still able to...

I've been actively, but gently pushing my sister about this visit for the past few weeks. We have our guest room entirely set up. We went ahead and renovated our bathroom while we were at it. I just found out that my sister and her ex STILL have not bought plane tickets for my niece. My sister...

Sorry I haven't been noticing your posts. I did a major overhaul on my bathroom and then had a surprise visitor and haven't been online. Now keep in mind that I am a survivor of a 9-year sexually abusive relationship with my oldest brother when we were both adults, in addition to being raped...

I mentioned this thread the other day when my aunt visited. She was telling me about how painful her relationship with her sister (my mom) has been over the years. My mom really has always said things like the jerk things you described your sister saying. Before she had kids, she picked on my...

Update: After about a million picture, video, and regular texts from me in daily to every few day intervals, with rare responses from my sister, she finally gave me a tentative date of the first week of August for my 11 year old niece visiting. Progress! I'm starting to set up a guest room for...

Your sister sounds like an a**h*le to me. I'm sure someone else better versed can tell you if her behavior is technically abuse or not. I think the "correct" way to deal with a person like that is to say they're toxic and get away from them, but I know that's not always an option. If your...

The last time I saw my therapist she asked me to focus on some pain things, and then she said that I thought that if I didn't bad about my brother being dead, it meant I didn't love him. I DID say that I felt he deserved for people to feel bad that he was gone and that I thought I was the only...

When my toddler is in preschool (not now because it's summer) I go jogging with my pit bull. It's dangerous for me to jog in intervals because I have 1) bad knees and 2) a neurological disorder that makes me fall sometimes. But walking doesn't help all that much. Jogging helps because I am...

I'm so sorry. Not long ago my husband's cousin's daughter was arrested for trying to burn down a house with three people in it. She's 19. My husband's cousin was a nice girl growing up, but she went way downhill after she graduated high school. This girl was her third child. She tired to abort...

I can give you a somewhat technical explanation. This kind of thing is in the realm of what I used to research. I gave up research a few months ago. All people use words (including specific phrasing), gestures, vocal modulation, and facial expression to communicate. People have varying degrees...

Holy god, some of these things you're describing made my jaw drop. I retract my earlier soft touch on this situation now that I'm getting a better picture. Honestly, if I were in your position, I would go talk to a lawyer now and find out the best way to leave and talk about custody. I wouldn't...

I went through just a very minor incident. Many years ago I got a restraining order against my primary abuser, my mom, who kept calling and threatening me after my brother killed himself. I had to come out of hiding to take care of things following his death and that's how she found me. I...

I must have misread the original story. I agree that therapists in most cases shouldn't be sharing their own personal stories. What I meant is that if some regular person is having a problem and you, another regular person has experience with something similar, it is your duty as a human being...

Back when I was working I had all kinds of problems interacting with people- I think a lot of it traced back to being triggered from my own trauma. My husband is autistic and has a completely different way of looking at pretty much anything. He has a wonderful method of dealing with work that...

Oh I definitely would do that if it was just me, but my own little boy is three, and I don't think I could either take him or leave him home for something like that. If he were a little older I would. I used to fly out there and visit for a few days here and there and I really think that helped...

I cleaned up what was left after they took my brother's body away after he killed himself. I didn't find his body. In fact, his body was there for a few days before anyone found him. My husband was with me when I did it. He had to go stand out on the porch because it made him have a panic...

I use a more mechanical method to get people out of my life. I quietly observe, and then if a person has raised too many red flags I just disappear. No reason to tell them about it. What does that person matter anymore once I'm no longer interacting with them? If you keep talking to them, you...

The dad is definitely not done. He was sending me long, long, ridiculous texts about how much he loves my sister. How sorrowful he is. Trying to call me to whine on the phone. Sending me pictures of his new tattoos, which I didn't think was appropriate. I stopped answering him entirely and he...