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We are doomed in the U.S. People stupidly think that if we tax the rich more and give more breaks to the poor then all will be good. But you cannot tax the job creators and create more jobs!! What we just increased is the lazy class who expect entitlements. I'm not talking handicap or some other...

Hello lebellavista, Does your boyfriend have PTSD? I want to give some advice, but want to make sure it is from the right perspective. Sisu

Yes, it is your choice ~ but it is his choice too. He also has to live with your choice. If he is not actively getting help via counseling and/or meds then he may not see much of a future for himself. He loves you and doesn't want that future for you too. When you love someone you want to...

And Luminosity - not trying to be rude in the least, but you have PTSD and this thread is the supporters section. If you don't have constructive advice for me, please don't post on my threads. As a supporter who tries so very hard to be supportive and tries so very hard to learn all that I can...

He is a great guy and YES this is PTSD related - he has combat PTSD and feels the need to keep everyone he loves safe. When we are away from him he worries.... Which is also why I stated that in my last sentence ~ I do GET that this is a minor issue. And my annoyance obviously wasn't...

Hello, Welcome! I'm sorry you are going through this. Your husband must have a big heart to be a volunteer firefighter. And what an awful thing for him to experience and see. If possible I would encourage him (or see if his parents will encourage him) to continue going to the counselor in...

I have to say for the most part my boyfriend who has PTSD and I get along very well. He is able to communicate what he is feeling/thinking/etc. and we are able to talk about it or work through it. It did take a few years to reach this level of trust, but it has helped our relationship...

Hello Chica, Welcome. Come on over to the supporters section - lots of amazing people who will listen and give advice when needed. I'm sorry he is having such a tough time right now - combat does awful things to our heros. When will his "go to" therapist be available? Can you call them and...

Hello armourlily, I am sorry you are going through such a tough time right now. A pregnancy should be a celebratory time in your life - unfortunatley you are not able to celebrate. Please take care of yourself and your unborn baby. Does your boyfriend get therapy or take meds? If he has...

Only YOU can know if and how long you can hold on. My boyfriend is still going through a tough time, and I don't see it changing for at least another week. If I call him, he rarely answers his phone - but he will eventually call me back. In his presense he is distracted but for the most part...

Hello Steveareeno, Welcome! You wife is lucky to have a supporter like you. I hope she realizes this - if not now, someday. As far as the your question about whether you are doing the right thing or not.....honestly, I don't know. It sounds like your wife needs lots of therapy. Drugs and...

Hello celia, Welcome!! I am so sorry you are going through this - and the frustration of not being able to talk to him must be overwhelming. But, my best advice to you is to continue on with your plan ~ be productive, strong, do yoga, go to the gym, be healthy and spend time with your family &...

Hello, My boyfriend was also in the Army (well technically still is, but is in the retirement process right now) and he has combat PTSD from his service. He takes the meds that the VA precscribed (and there are a lot of meds) and he also has kids and he is able to function fine. The meds don't...

Hello rebecca9012, You asked how you get him to stop pushing you away - the simple answer is, you can't especially if he is not being treated for his PTSD. He needs to get therapy and take meds or do whatever they tell him to better manage his PTSD. Until that time he will be all over the...

Hello mel62, Welcome! I'm sorry it took so long to figure out he had PTSD but I am glad that he finally got a diagnosis. The VA (or other military type hospital depending on the country you live) is very good and helping those with combat PTSD as there are a lot of veterans coming home with it...

Hello RachelLovesYou, I am glad to read that he is going to a psychiatrist to be properly diagnosed. If he does have PTSD, then he will need to follow the doctors advice so he is able to better manage his PTSD. You can support him, but he needs to be the one to work on the healing. And...

Hello DJD, Welcome! I'm sorry you are going through a tough time. Is your husband seeking treatment for his PTSD at this time? It is very important he seeks treatment to better manage his PTSD. Come on over to the supporters section - ask questions, read the sticky's at the top of each...

Hello tentqx340, Do you support someone with PTSD?

Hello Izzy, Welcome! I glad to read that your husband is seeking treatment - that is a great sign. Without treatment the PTSD is in control, not your husband. Come on over to the supporters section - there are lots of great people who support and are willing to share their story. Lots of us...

I have to say I typically practice the "water off a ducks back" method ~ and then when he feels better we talk about it. My boyfriend doesn't usually get angry or yell, but he will at times of stress overload be physically present but not mentally. He goes into his head and forgets about those...

Sadly, there probably is no real good answer. I suppose we all do the best we can with what we have. It's so hard sometimes because like most, I've been very hurt in the past. It's hard not to build those steel reinforced walls when they do something hurtful.

Hello RiverEDGE, Welcome! You have been lucky not to have seen any withdrawl in the 3 years you have been together. I would just tell you to listen to what he says and give him the space he needs to find his center again. It sounds like he has a pretty good handle on his PTSD if he hasn't...

I'll be sending good vibes, positive thoughts and any other means I can think of your way next Thursday. I'm so sorry he has lost a good friend. That is always hard no matter what state of mind you are in. He should be very proud of himself to have been able to call the wife today to...

Hello - I also read it all. You cannot blame yourself for anything you did, said or reacted to in your relationship with your boyfriend. We are all human and not one of us is perfect (thank goodness!) so your reactions were natural and human. In addition PTSD is a huge disorder to get your...

Hello! And UGH!! I am so sorry you are going though this with your love. PTSD is an awful beast at times. It sounds like he doesn't regularly take his meds or go to therapy - he will need to do this if you have any hope of a "normal' relationship. I think you are doing the right thing -...