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Echoing what others have said, to take care of yourself and offer what support you are able and willing to give your daughter, given your own limitations and boundaries. Everyone finds their own path to healing, at their own pace. It's wonderful that your daughter has you and her brothers. That...

The discussion has moved along from the original poster's question, which was how does EMDR work? and although the discussion has been interesting and useful, I'm not sure the question was addressed. EMDR starts with a particular understanding of trauma: that the trauma a person experienced has...

Way to go!

Way to go, therisa!

Supporter here, not speaking from experience, but it seems to me that like anything else you haven't done before, perhaps you should start with baby steps. Say the words out loud: I am angry. Write them down. Name one or two things that you're angry about. Write those down: I am angry that x, y...

I'm also a fan of Francine Shapiro's books EMDR and Getting Past Your Past. EMDR is one of the most effective therapies for PTSD and her books are very accessible. I was also glad I read Gabor Mate's In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts. It can be a tough book to read, as the author is a doctor who...

You're doing your best. You pushed, he pushed back. The idea of going to therapy and CHANGING, even though it might be for the better, can be pretty scary. It's a leap off into an abyss, to an unknown destination. That said, if he actually does go see a hypnotherapist (I presume about his...

I don't talk to my friends about my bf much any more, and I try to shield my husband from it too, since he's heard it all over and over and seen me leave the bf and go back to him. And he's stressed out because of my secondary symptoms, too. I am so, so grateful for my therapist. I do tell her...

I am very grateful for this thread. Thank you so much for sharing.

Well, it is a balancing act. My bf does not do much isolating, though. He more frequently seeks connection and distraction from the voices and memories. He goes out and works almost every day, which also is a way of keeping bad thoughts at bay. And he often asks me to come over to be with him on...

We are polyamorous. I have a husband, and there is my boyfriend, who suffers from PTSD. Last year, my boyfriend also started dating someone else. I've vented about her in The Angry Thread. BF and I have been together almost five years, and last fall he got me a ring that I wear on my right hand.

Supporter here. I know that my sufferer does this projection thing -- it's a perennial problem, that he'll accuse me of deliberating avoiding him when I just miss a phone call or a text. It's in his head. It's very tough to deal with on my end, because I go out of my way to be responsive to him...

Leah123, I'm rooting for you. You've come a long, long way and you've got the strength to go the distance. Well done so far!

I have secondary symptoms so my therapist is essential to my survival. I have work, and my family. Sometimes my kid gets on my nerves, but sometimes he is just the person to lift my spirits. I take walks and practice mindfulness. I am periodically trying to learn to meditate. I like to watch...

I was with him on the 4th, actually, along with his best friend. They set off some stuff in the street. And he got triggered in the middle of the night when someone set off a whole string of noisy stuff that sounded like it was right out in his driveway. He got up and checked it out, and I know...

You know that saying, April is the cruelest month? Well, for my sufferer, it looks like the cruelest month is July. We had a couple of weeks of separation after his birthday in mid-June, in part because his behavior was over the line, and in part because I was feeling especially vulnerable and...

Seems like you made a good list right there in your first post. Can you show that or read it out for your therapist? What you said sounds to me like you want to establish some boundaries with your family (you don't want them to push you), and you want them to better understand your situation (to...

So very glad to hear all these good things happening for you and inside you and because of what you are doing and not doing. Your point about how hard it is to give up your old self, and that it's a risky and frightening thing to do, is profound and important. Seems to me that it's reasonable...

I wrote this extended metaphor the other day. I've had a tough couple of weeks, but I'm doing better now. Just wanted to share it with others who have been there. ***************************** You grew up in a difficult country. The valley was called Anger and the mountains were called Pain. I...

Dandelion, your sufferer is lucky to have you. You're doing a good job. Don't forget to take care of yourself.

Geeze I hate it when my boyfriend freaks out on me for missing a call or a text. He blames me. IT IS NOT SOMETHING I AM ACTIVELY DOING TO MESS WITH HIM. If I am in a meeting with my manager, I DO NOT HAVE MY PHONE IN THE ROOM. If I have earbuds in and am watching some teevee and the phone is...

Welcome oneforjustice. You have a hard road ahead, but it sounds like you know that. You will find other useful suggestions if you read around on the Supporter threads. It also sounds like your husband is somewhat self aware about his situation, that he recognizes that he has learning and work...

I agree that therapy is very important, for all the reasons stated above. It's also important to remember that everyone moves toward healing at their own pace. My boyfriend suffers from complex PTSD from child abuse and combat experience. He is very negative about therapy and may never go...

I am double posting -- I put this in Anxiety & Panic Attacks on the sufferer side of the forum, but us supporters need stress management tools, too. There is an application for Android and iPhones called iChill. It's in the Apple store and the Android market. My therapist pointed me to it. (It...

Hi folks, I just wanted to mention that there is an application for Android and iPhones called iChill. It's in the Apple store and the Android market. My therapist pointed me to it and I'm downloading it for my phone right now. (It was created by the Trauma Resource Institute.) There are...